Tips for lasting longer?

MikeBaum · 2021-02-28T11:31:36+00:00

I suffer from this (can be a 1 pump wonder at times) and here's the advice that helped me:

Usually premature ejaculation is caused by anxiety, due to our caveman wiring, if you're not relaxed your body will think there's a bear charging towards you about eat you so it tries to gtfo as soon as possible.

First tip is to do kegel exercises, not to strengthen but to be aware of the muscle. When you next have sex, notice how tense your kegal, hamstring and glutes are, I bet they are tense af, learn to keep them relaxed, the second tip with help with this....

Stop focussing on your dick, your dick will do what your dick will do. Most guys experience sex only through their dick, but there's actually so much more to it than that when you're really in the zone and enjoying everything around it. The Sex God Method describes this as "immersion".

Focus on all the other nice things that come with sex, touch her, play/pull her hair, focus on your own body, how does it feel, where does it feel? what do you want to do next?

Your dick is just the thing that goes in to her, when you cum the pleasure seems to come from your brain, not your dick right?

Finally, get over the shame of not lasting long, as soon as you think about cumming you'll probably cum, so when you do cum think about how great it was for you, express to her how good it was for you.

The fact that you last 5 minutes and want to last longer means you probably have performance anxiety and care too much about what she thinks. That anxiety is causes fight of flight so your brain will just cum and gtfo.

2021-02-28T12:28:02+00:00

Lol who cares, getting off quick is a godsend - Time is money.

a6rp · 2021-02-28T09:47:09+00:00

Workout all around, change positions, deep breaths.

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-02-28T17:23:41+00:00

stretch out your hip flexor muscles. premature ejaculation is often caused by a tight pelvic floor, and a tight pelvic floor is often the result of tight hipflexors and glutes. muscle imbalances in that whole region, caused by modern sedentary lifestyle, creates all of these kinds of problems. your psoas muscle is your fight-or-flight muscle, and tightens up the whole midsection of your body when you're stressed, so you want to loosen that part up as much as possible and this will benefit your sex life. people say "breathe" to last longer, and this is partially true because breathing deeply relaxes your pelvic floor muscles. but it's not enough on its own, you need to be loosey goosey and relieve the tension as a lifestyle.

chrisdudleys · 2021-02-28T14:57:43+00:00

When I’ve had issues with busting too quick in the past, it was during hookups with women that I wasn’t all that attracted to. Something about the shame of the act made me really anxious and uncomfortable I guess. Having a bit of a connection with the women I’m fucking, and not lowering my standards just to get laid has eliminated the issue for me.

PhaedrusHunt · 2021-02-28T15:24:41+00:00

Serious question-- can't you just go another round?

I guess I'm just lucky in that department, always been that way. No refractory period, sometimes I can bust two or three times without going down.

Times when I DID come fast and lost erection, if I want to go again, I'll say something like, "You just felt too good. I want to go some more though. Can you give me a blowjob and get me going again?"

They ALWAYS oblige.

dhilu3089 · 2021-02-28T15:11:06+00:00

There are many condoms that can extend the pleasure. Give it a try

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daddydropfeet · 2021-02-28T15:55:35+00:00

1 hour easy. Switch positions. Slow down. Stop when you need to. Enjoy the journey.

TheSmile_10 · 2021-02-28T15:57:38+00:00

"Nice guys finish last; Men finish in her face"

__TheDon__ · 2021-02-28T16:08:42+00:00

In most cases it’s just anxiety. You need to adopt the mentality that the girl is there to please YOU. She was put on this earth to have your dick inside her. Once you truly feel that way, all of the bedroom anxiousness goes away.

simple_human · 2021-02-28T16:28:50+00:00

Go down on her when you start to get the tingles, slow down, breathe, communicate (it’ll help you relax) switch positions, fuck more often to desensitize you. Remember sex is supposed to be fun, not some biological task that you need to complete, so have fun.

RelucBeam · 2021-02-28T16:44:09+00:00

Honestly who cares. Just laugh its funny when it happens

If you want to last longer, then stop when you know it's coming and change position

pseudomonames · 2021-02-28T17:14:10+00:00

Meditate. Learn to be mindful. When things are getting heated, control your breathing with slow deep breaths in from your nose and out from your mouth and focus on the present moment instead of worrying about nutting too quickly.

supersoup- · 2021-02-28T17:29:02+00:00

Start working out

SoloSilk · 2021-02-28T18:54:37+00:00

Mucuna pruriens extract 30 mins prior works wonders

PetersontheJordan · 2021-02-28T20:40:04+00:00

Stop watching porn. When you masturbate, masturbate for 10 minutes minimum. Did me wonders.

2021-02-28T22:15:09+00:00

If you have ED, try viagra. If you are ejaculating too soon try jerking off beforehand.

SenorTonto · 2021-02-28T23:30:52+00:00

Shit 5 minutes of constant humping will make most men cum. When you feel you are about to cum just pull out and start going down on her, making out, fingering, etc.

Or just bust that nut, continue making out or whatever and then go another round 😎

moto101 · 2021-03-01T15:46:02+00:00

There are condoms with numbing cream in them, not too strong where you can't feel anything but enough to extend your session. If you are going raw there are sprays as well but they really numb you.

I've found having the girl on top first to "warm up" helps, I seem to be overly excited in the first few minutes but once I get going I reach a point of more control.

Javvvizz · 2021-02-28T10:24:18+00:00

don’t get too into the moment think of other things

Title	Tips for lasting longer?
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Date	February 28, 2021 9:26 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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