Too short?

pnzndltn · 2019-01-30T07:34:59+00:00

I'm 5'5 and first and foremost, it starts with attitude. I think the biggest thing is to just fucking own it and be non-apologetically confident in social situations, and to not be shaken one inch when someone says something about it - because that's what they're trying to do. Shake you.

There will be plenty of people who find you attractive if your SMV is high enough for your height range. My brother is much better looking than I, and your height, and girls fawn all over him.

I have broad shoulders and a muscular frame, and this will go a *long* way to giving you more presence and masculinity. You can be short but don't you dare be fat (read:obese) or even worse imo, skinny.

If you get your SMV in order, you can absolutely hook up with good looking girls, but keep in mind that you will have to work hard, your social skills need to be on point, and you will still be tested and get comments even by girls you've already fucked. Never waver. Show that you are mentally stronger than your taller competition by not being controlled by a disadvantage.

In summary:

Develop and maintain an unshakable frame, but don't take yourself too seriously. You win by not being controlled by others.
Maximize your SMV by focusing on style and fitness/building a muscular frame. Also have good posture and stand up straight with your shoulders back.
Sharpen your social skills. Don't be the "angry short guy". Anticipate being tested on your height, and respond with nothing but true confidence, agree and amplify, etc. See these too-easy tests for what they are.
Focus on daygame instead of online game. Attractive girls who are interested in you in person know what they're getting when they see you and will still show you IOIs if they're into you. Despite how it feels, there are actually really good looking girls who don't care about your height if they're into you. There are a lot of people out there man. Meet some of em.

4SkinFred · 2019-01-30T06:34:57+00:00

There are plenty of posts on the main sub. Go check them out.

Others have done it so there's no excuse. You just have to work harder than the average male.

Deal with it.

R3ginal · 2019-01-30T06:39:41+00:00

TRP is not something that is “effective” or not — it’s just reality. Is the physics that Einstein came up with “effective”? It makes no sense to say it was “effective”, it just is — it’s reality.

There are 3 main factors that determine a man’s SMV: Financial assets (money and so on), game (including social status (among both sexes)), and looks. One component of your “looks” category is lacking — and it’s something you can’t change. Fine but it is ONLY ONE of many things that determine your “looks” rating. And since it is something you can’t change, it is a waste of time to sit there and worry about it. There are still MANY other factors that determine your “looks” rating, and everyone’s goal should be to maximise what they can (in your case, all the stuff beside height, such as body fat, muscle, hygiene, ...). And even then there is ALSO the other 2 main factors and all the stuff that goes into them; and none of that stuff is genetic.

Does height matter? Of course it does. But it’s only ONE of MANY, MANY things that determine SMV. The worst thing you could do is be one of those pathetic losers who sit there and get depressed over their height.

Sbdaq · 2019-01-30T06:05:41+00:00

Fact is in order to get hot girls you have to make yourself into a valuable man and be able to convey that socially. That's it. Doesn't really matter what you look like. As long as you're able to speak you're good, that's where your power comes from.

MisunderstoodAsian · 2019-01-30T08:38:38+00:00

A lot could be written about this topic but it can all be summed up by: lift and master frame.

It's TRP but in extra hard mode. More shit tests and potentially more rejections, but that's all there really is to it. Don't sweat over it.

cuztrp · 2019-01-30T11:09:15+00:00

I know a guy who is as short as you (maybe taller maybe shorter), and this guy is the most hilarious person you can ever meet. With that, of course, comes his great ability to pick up girls and fuck them to sleep.

He's constantly taking care of himself though, especially clothing and hairstyle. He buys a pair of shoes every month, a new jacket every once in a while, and always trims his beard and gets a haircut once he starts looking like shit.

I have seen this guy in action and what can I tell you? His humour completely make girls forget that he's shorter than them. His confidence is unshakable to the point that no girl ever shittests him for his height.

I am only a little bit taller than you, average, and I have hit on girls who are taller than me and I never really felt insecure about it. Just try not to make a big deal out of it.

elf_knife_love · 2019-01-30T13:04:15+00:00

You are correct, women statistically don't date men shorter then them, they also don't do LTRs. Marriages where the woman is shorter than the man are essentially non-existent (even when accounting for the diff in height distribution).

That being said, you have two target avenues that other guys don't have:

Muscles (much easier to build with a tiny body)
Tiny women. Depending on where you are 20 to 60% of the female population is still smaller than you. Further more, tall guys (that can more easily access all women) will usually not go for very tiny women (well, everyone has their fetishes, but in general that's the case).

Another advantage you have is: all short guys think the way you do, as in, there are very few short guys that even try. So if you get in good shape and focus on game, you have an interesting avenue of tiny women open to you, women that have low SMV due to their height (but for you that's not an issue) and have access to even lower SMV men (because most short people will just give up on looks and game).

Alternatively, find one good woman that's very submissive and go for an LTR where you keep her in line using TRP tactics.

That being said, 5,3 is very tiny, kinda suck for you. You are playing on hard mode and you need to remember that. Such is life, it's never fair, we are all born with our disadvantages.

VaultGuy1995 · 2019-01-30T15:34:28+00:00

I'm your height, and I've been able to make it work. It can get frustrating because you're not gonna get laid as much as the typical man. You just gotta focus on the things you can improve like your physique, personality, and money.

boy_named_su · 2019-01-30T06:29:55+00:00

TRP tells you how to play poker. When to check, raise, or fold

But it also tells you how to live a good life outside of women

In your case, you're very short and are gonna have a hard time.

You're best bet is to game very short women and get extreme social status, like a famous actor or singer

Kendrick Lamar is 5'6 and does well with the ladies

DownyGall · 2019-01-30T06:29:47+00:00

I mean you may have to be self deprecating and own your shortness but you can still do well. Important thing is that you can’t do anything about your height so it’s useless to spend too much time on it. We’re all human and can lament things about ourselves but better to spend your time on things you can control.

redhawkes · 2019-01-30T11:07:00+00:00

Don't talk to me like a bitch

TheRedPillRipper · 2019-01-30T11:53:16+00:00

First thing about height; it matters.

You know however what matters most? Value.

Put yourself in a position where you’re financially, physically(build) and socially “higher” and it’s a different ballgame. Think Tom Cruise. Russell Wilson. Bruno Mars.

Godspeed and good luck!

Vikingcel · 2019-01-30T14:35:41+00:00

Do other men respect you? That's a prerequisite to getting a talking meatsock on your dick.

There's a 5'6ish guy at my gym. I can't not respect that lad even if I joke about his height (and his hands being too small to hookgrip), because he's my weight, outlifts me 9/10 times and is a bouncer.

Rosace_89 · 2019-01-30T15:53:25+00:00

the mentality part is more like 80% imo

a caucasian, 6'2 olympic swimmer will still be a lil' bitch if he has the mentality of a lil' bitch

gabeytong · 2019-01-30T06:13:11+00:00

I'm 5'6 and still working on it

misls · 2019-01-30T06:32:16+00:00

TRP shows you how to overcome your height. If you feel like you'll never move past your height being a factor then perhaps you should get surgery to increase your height (warning: It's expensive and hurts like a motherfucker).

SorryBelt · 2019-01-30T09:12:50+00:00

You’re pretty fucked bro. Just wear some shoe lifts and hope you find girls who don’t care.

Title	Too short?
Author	bapatasix
Upvotes	7
Comments	40
Date	January 30, 2019 5:37 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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