What do you do when you break frame?

bluefingerblue · 2020-09-17T10:25:50+00:00

Uhhh dude you aren’t plating your boss are you?

Because sometimes you need to operate in your bosses frame

Just like a girl should be operating in your frame as captain of the ship

BestVersionOfMyself_ · 2020-09-17T11:26:00+00:00

Never outshine the Master. Did you read 48 laws of power?

Truth and being "right" is not always the highest valued asset in social interactions, neither in a work environment where you are in a hierarchy.

hoopingblob · 2020-09-17T10:18:46+00:00

It's usually hard to do that. Once lost its basically lost for good unless you do the ultimate move and tell him to fuck off after you spit your last piece of gum on his face

ChillingSmite · 2020-09-17T10:32:58+00:00

Well, considering that he's your boss, you're already in his frame by way of social order, its not the other way around. Sure, he made an ultimate statement that solidified his frame, but I don't think it would have been necessary to brown nose him or apologize for the sake of appeasement, its easier to move on with things without saying anything, especially in corporate/work scenarios. Appeasement has probably lowered your frame even more if anything.

ComplexProjection · 2020-09-17T11:30:14+00:00

Your problem was building your frame on being right. It's like building your confidence on being liked by other. It is a plan for failure.

You can be mistaken and stay in your frame. Simply integrate to your frame that you are not perfect, and that it does not invalidate you as a good human being. In my case, if you can show me i'm wrong on something, I will thank you for that information and probably ask you a lot of questions to know more about it. My frame won't get a scratch.

Here you were not mistaken, your boss just played his authority card. I would have just answered "ok it's your decision in the end" and moved on with my life. Why would I link my pride or my worth to something I don't control ?

You are an employee. Are you paid to be right ? Probably not. You are paid to do what your boss want you to do. You can explain him your point of view of course, but in the end he is the one taking the decision. It's okay, that's the deal.

markis655 · 2020-09-17T10:27:32+00:00

Assert your opinion but also be humble enough to admit when wrong and make compromises. If you know you're right then your frame shouldn't be shattered. If he's calling you a smartass then maybe you were being one. Try not to be a smartass in a professional setting.

Kink3 · 2020-09-17T11:08:49+00:00

Frame needs to be more fluid than this and you can't always AMOG every situation. Unless you have fuck you money, you need to take a back seat while at work.

pebblefromwell · 2020-09-17T11:11:18+00:00

Two books to help on this in the business world. How to make friends and influence people, 48 laws of power. These will be of more help.

XXXMersenne · 2020-09-17T23:06:43+00:00

Tao it

Begin by agreeing so he cools off, then point out why you disagree along the lines of what you had in mind.

If seeking first to understand then to be understood is taken as an serious affront to his authority & ultimate verdict worthy of rage, fine. have a delicious bowl of museli one morning and wait for colon's signal before u leave dense turd taped in A4 under your desk or some other secret location.

Then leave for higher IQ pastures.

BusterVadge · 2020-09-17T13:36:26+00:00

It sounds like you're being unprofessional. There is a chain of command for a reason. Be polite and if you disagree with something he does, bring it to him in a professional manner. State your case and don't be a dick about it.

If things continue on the way they are, then you take up the issue with his superior. Be prepared with plenty of dates, times, incidents, and other hard data.

Th0tPol1ce · 2020-09-17T14:17:21+00:00

Fuck your boss in the ass to assert dominance

courtesy_flush_plz · 2020-09-17T14:43:07+00:00

Man some bosses you gotta bend over for.

WalterHuey · 2020-09-17T18:23:32+00:00

Well this depends on what your goals.

In my opinion you should be strong and be able to run well. But you cannot effectively train the both at the same time. Hence start with a minimized strength building program and do cardio 2-3 times a week at a maximum of 30 min.

When you want to focus on the cardio you need to shift it up and do LSS work beyond 45 min. This will make your strength progress less optimal.

An excellent program for being equally strong in different domains is Tactical Barbell program.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-09-17T19:57:39+00:00

he is a weak man. understand that. recognize that. no good manager would say such (or need to say such) a thing. so your life is gonna suck and has likely sucked.

so, what now?

now that you know without question he is an insecure loser, work around that 'issue' to get your work done, and see about a move to another department - be an asset for now, don't threaten him (not even a real one, a perceived one on his end) you don't want him to fuck you up with HR or something.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-09-17T11:21:33+00:00

Aspanu24 · 2020-09-17T11:59:49+00:00

I would make a joke of it. “oh yeah you gonna fire me big boy” in a dirty voice with a smirk. When he’s aggressive make light of him, and make him laugh at the same time. Tells him you’re not afraid enough to be joking around with him

Title	What do you do when you break frame?
Author	loltrustme182
Upvotes	21
Comments	20
Date	September 17, 2020 9:55 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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