What do you say when she refuses?

Sir_Distic · 2015-08-21T20:23:35+00:00

Walk away. Give up on her and find someone else. Simple as that.

To continue to pursue her in any way after she's made it clear is to be a beta orbiter.

Let her go. Next.

AFPJ · 2015-08-21T20:30:53+00:00

How do I treat her after that? First, I don't want to show butthurt

The bold part is where your misconception is coming from. Being butthurt is being vengeful - it's distasteful & means you will actively go out of your way to inconvenience the other person on your own or if they talk to you, leave that to women. Realizing that she has no use / potential to you, on the other hand, gives you every right to just ignore her.

Stop mind-fucking yourself so hard that you are asking us how to waste effort on not seeming butthurt. She said no. That means what she thinks, and her entire existence, is now fucking irrelevant to you. And yet, here you are, asking us how to not seem butthurt (I can only presume) TO HER. What? Why? Because you still would like to fuck her? You won't get that chance - behaving on a limbic level as if you will is precisely what women so routinely exploit.

You're a dude. Use some willpower. Imagine her being 40, fat, taking a disgusting shit and mainlining heroin.

Then move on, with a newly worry-free life abundant in women who might fuck you if you talk to them.

Archwinger · 2015-08-21T20:58:41+00:00

Suppose I asked a girl out, she told me she's not interested, the message is clear. How do I treat her after that?

You don't. You do not give a woman the girlfriend treatment just for fun. That's a waste of time, energy, and resources you could devote to any other aspect of your life, including other women who might actually want to fuck you. If your life's circumstances will cause you to cross this girl's path frequently, you don't have to be a butt-hurt ass. You can say hi. It's okay. Just don't waste a lot of time with her. You have better things to do with your time.

Once you've built yourself an awesome life, fucked a few dozen women, and have a rotation of plates you cycle through during the week, maybe a year or two from now, she'll see you on Facebook and decide she wants to suck your dick. Probably not. Don't reach out to her. Just do your thing.

First, I don't want to show butthurt,

Then don't. Don't be butthurt. This is one, completely non-unique, completely not-special girl in a world with 3.5 billion of them. How's it go? If I had a dollar for every girl that didn't find me attractive, girls would find me attractive. Go fuck other women. This one isn't interested? What's it matter? Did the other 3,499,999,999 vaginas on Earth all stop working?

I don't want to be her orbiter.

On the other hand, I still think that girl is pretty okay, I like the way she looks, I like the way she moves, there's no change in my feelings toward her

These statements are a contradiction. You definitely want to be her orbiter. What a waste of your precious life essence that would be. The more you hang around and make yourself common and familiar, the less she'll want you. Remind me why you're wasting time with this girl again?

Whisper · 2015-08-22T09:42:20+00:00

Suppose I asked a girl out, she told me she's not interested, the message is clear. How do I treat her after that?

Don't treat her after that.

Not every woman is going to be into you. There is no one man in the world who would be attractive to every woman. So sometimes, you're just going to run into women who aren't into you and never will be.

Don't spend time on them. Go find another woman. Extract yourself from the conversation politely, but as quickly as possible, then find your next target.

abdada · 2015-08-21T20:18:58+00:00

Question lacking information.

How'd you know her and for how long before you made a move?

PemBayliss · 2015-08-21T20:32:23+00:00

what do you do when she refuses?

"Ok. Nice talking to you."

And then don't talk to her again.

binrobinro · 2015-08-21T20:59:40+00:00

'bye, Felicia.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-08-22T01:00:47+00:00

It's very important that you show you're not a bitch.

Oftentimes, she will reject you as a formality just to TEST your reaction. You don't want to create unnecessary drama. You have to have a genuine sense of abundance.

Dr_Shakalu22 · 2015-08-22T04:29:07+00:00

There are so many other women out there that it literally doesn't matter

iLLprincipLeS · 2015-08-21T20:50:02+00:00

her existence comes to an end. she failed to achieve her objective.

McLarenX · 2015-08-22T06:31:34+00:00

There are 4 billion women in the world. I think you can figure it out.

Title	What do you say when she refuses?
Author	megadeth9999
Upvotes	7
Comments	21
Date	August 21, 2015 8:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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