What does it mean to make it as a man?

hhex · 2016-04-21T15:41:43+00:00

The moment you stop having goals, the moment life stops being fun. Set a few goals for yourself, and if you reach them, set more. You never "make it", you keep improving.

Icanus · 2016-04-21T17:19:00+00:00

You are content...when you are content.
You can be a possessions-less Buddhist monk or the richest man in the world.
You can be single or have a wife (or more) and loads of children.
You can live in a castle or spend your days on your small fishing boat.

It doesn't matter. Success is not objective. It's yours.

I would say that killing your own genetic line by not reproducing is not easily something I can view as success. But most TRP guys here would disagree. And that's fine.

Don't set goals, set habits.
They last longer ;)

prime_zero · 2016-04-21T15:53:41+00:00

Though not strictly RP, I do enjoy Brets articles

Clint_Redwood · 2016-04-21T16:56:51+00:00

Everyone's answer is different. None of us can tell you what it means to be a man in life. That's your job to figure it out for yourself.

With that said I'll explain why it's your job and why we can't tell you. I give you examples but they are just examples and you need to figure out your own way.

TRP is about teaching men to become their own man. In itself TRP is kind of a paradox as it's a template that teaches men to become a certain way. Yet tells them they need to become their own alpha. I think a lot of guys get hung up on the TRP template as if it's a guide to 'Become an Alpha in 1, 2 ,3".

The reality is, TRP is exactly that, a template. Like if you were to build a website or design a business model. TRP just happens to amass the best of the best of those models. Most of those models revolve around fucking girls because it's a universal desire for all men. There are many models and templates out there. You can study a lot of them but what will make your successful is how you take that template and turn it into something unique. Any dude can come here, learn pick up, learn game, learn the 48 laws, learn to be more charismatic. but what makes him unique is how he uses those teachings.

TRP at it's core is the first stepping stone. It's 'How to Become a Man Kindergarten'. Society doesn't teach men to become men. It teaches them to become cogs. But in a way TRP will produce cogs unless we also teach them to become independent and find their own way. It's the same concept of boot camp in any military service. Take all the special little snowflakes and beat their ass till they realize they aren't special and they are the only ones to control their future. A lot of guys come here and never get farther than the template design. It's exactly like how the military trains grunts to follow orders except the one difference between military and TRP is we don't have an agenda for you. We aren't trying to get anything out of you.

Another correlation you'll notice between TRP and military is you have the basic grunt and then you have the elite guys. SEAL's, Green green beret, spetsnaz, rangers, etc. These guys typically come out of the military and end having a higher success rate than the average grunt if you want to put a score board on the game of life.

TRP again doesn't have an agenda for you though. We aren't trying to control you and use you for a return like the military. TRP is here to turn you into a grunt then give you the tools to become your own man. TRP is your basic training and once you can no longer learn anything more then you have to start thinking for yourself. We can teach you introspection, mindfulness, accountability and taking life into your own hand but it still comes down to you taking the action and actually using those lessons to figure it out yourself. Because you have different wants, desires, needs, experiences, goals, drives and ambitions that is totally different to all of us. I want happiness and independence. That is a core universal to most men but that's not something every man wants. Some want kids, i don't. Some want marriage and a structure in life. I don't, i love chaos and exploring the unknown. A lot of guys like comfort and security. I personal have grown to love change and fear. Every man is different.

So you ask me what you should aim for when you are laying death bed. Here's my answer;

Keep asking yourself that till you figure it out, because the clock is ticking.

kogsworth · 2016-04-21T17:32:44+00:00

“The greatest thing a man can do in this world, is to make the most possible out of the stuff that has been given him. This is success, and there is no other.” - Orison Swett Marden

Algernoq · 2016-04-21T17:00:17+00:00

It means you let someone else define what it means to "make it". Don't.

648262 · 2016-04-21T15:28:45+00:00

This question is too open. What do you want to know?

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-04-21T15:53:10+00:00

Now this is the big secret isn't it? It sucks how nowadays so many boys grow up without a strong father influence, so they grow up not knowing anything about a boy or girl. Contrary to schooling, boys are NOT the same as girls.

This is your own solo journey. You must figure it out for yourself. Kinda like figuring out what is your life's calling.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-04-21T17:33:38+00:00

On my deathbed, I'm going to be thinking, "Fuck, I need more drugs and some wine to wash them down with", rather than reflecting, methinks. That said, one should not be waiting until then to self-assess. It's a process.

cheechawcheechaw · 2016-04-21T18:06:15+00:00

When I tried everything in my power to make the best person as possible out of me.

AFPJ · 2016-04-21T20:06:01+00:00

What does it mean to make it as a man? (self.asktrp)

Knowing the answer to the question you just asked without relying on others' input.

on your deathbed reflecting on life, what would it take to make you say "I made it as a man in life."

Family, friends, doing and saying the things you didn't instead of worrying. The moment "I want to" became not good enough of a reason to do shit, or was eclipsed by faux "obligations", is the point where most civvies became lost in life.

CypherWolf21 · 2016-04-21T20:41:03+00:00

If you can look back on your life without regrets.

JimFury · 2016-04-22T00:40:17+00:00

More achievements for video games. Video games make the man.

But seriously being the top quality man I could be. Achieve the best body I could, have good friends and family, leave a legacy for my future generations. Gameplan is to get first generation rich and pass it on.

abdada · 2016-04-21T15:19:15+00:00

Outcome Independence.

cynicalprick01 · 2016-04-21T16:48:44+00:00

its different for everyone

to me, it would probably be having had several kids with grandchildren of their own.

imo, to be a man is to pass on one's genes in an evolutionarily adaptive way. (ie. your kids dont have FASD or autism)

Title	What does it mean to make it as a man?
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Date	April 21, 2016 3:05 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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