What is your usual opener?

fnordsnord · 2015-06-18T18:24:51+00:00

I rarely cold approach. It's hard mode. The bitch-shields are at maximum.

But when I do, I start with "Hi."

throwaway-aa2 · 2015-06-17T18:44:10+00:00

What you say really doesn't matter. My default is "hi how are you / hey, what's up" with extended hand.

I REALLY recommend PIMP by RSD Julien. He basically is one of the more TRP flavored PUA artists out there, and he talks about how the opener isn't really fucking important. Does a rockstar need an opening? No, he sub communicates value and attractiveness. So just get in there and if you have high SMV, make laser eye contact, be physical, speak from your belly and learn to have a conversation and the rest will take care of itself.

dontdrinkthekoolade · 2015-06-18T02:10:17+00:00

So here's my secret weapon that I've never had a negative response on.

"Oh my God, I almost wore that exact same thing tonight. That would have been embarrassing."

I literally say this to every single girl I meet and it always goes over well. And then you can turn it into a neg too, saying why you would have pulled it off better.

This is a lot of how you say things though, if you aren't naturally a good conversationalist and funny I could see it coming across as creepy. But it works for me.

Hunter2isit · 2015-06-18T03:39:49+00:00

anything funny that fits the situation. I've even complained to a girl about getting the cat call that she got and thanked her for deflecting. In retrospect I could have done better but I just wanted some cheeks

blacwidonsfw · 2015-06-18T02:06:10+00:00

Damn girl you Shit with that ass?

Suravira · 2015-06-17T18:01:01+00:00

Depends are you talking day game or night game.

Night game usually differs but a good one is to just look them down then snort or laugh, then look away. If they come up to ask why, just say nothing for the moment, make conversation and maybe make something up later or leave it mysterious.

Day game, just strike up a conversation about anything really.

mojokabobo · 2015-06-18T00:51:00+00:00

So, I don't really pick up women that often, only had 2 girls over the last 13 years (marriage for 12, had one gf in the last year), but here's a pickup line that worked for me like, 14 years ago.

So, a bunch of us were sitting around (about 50/50 guys/girls) drinking and joking. The topic of pickup lines came up. Everyone started telling their favorite pickup lines. Came to my turn, and I picked a girl near to me that I was attracted to, locked my eyes on hers, and began spitting this pickup line:

"Did you realize that the average length of intercourse is 4 minutes, and that the average number of strokes per minute is 9, which means that the average sexual encounter consists of 36 (9X4) strokes (cue suggestive hip thrusting). Since the average length of the penis is 6 inches, the average girl will receive 216 inches (36 strokes at 6 inches a stroke), or right around 18 feet per sexual encounter. Since the average girl has sex 3 times a week, 50 weeks out of the year (150 X a year), times the 18 feet per sexual encounter, that comes out to about 2700 feet (150X18ft), or just a little under a half a mile.

glance somewhat sheepishly down, then give her a once over and bring your eyes up to lock on hers as you give the next line, along with a suggestive smile

So hey, if you haven't had your half mile yet this year, how about I help you out? cue wink"

It worked the only time I've ever really tried to use it. Fucked her that night. Something about the mathematics all being spit out is mesmerizing, and somewhat impressive. The only part of the equation that I don't like is the claim of 9 strokes a minute being the average, that's WAY low, imho.. but almost noone really notices. Noone I've ever told it to anyways. People tend to just be impressed by the math skill of being able to spit all that out.

LeGrandDiableBlanc · 2015-06-18T14:37:44+00:00

I almost always use a situational opener.

"Man, it's hot out."

"What are all of those people doing over there?"

"I need a female opinion on x (book/gift/clothes/etc.)."

"Have you seen this band/DJ/comedian before?"

They are natural, so you don't come off as needy or pedestrianizing. They are quick because they write themselves. They are congruent because they're never canned.

DOCTORxTEETH · 2015-06-17T20:15:46+00:00

"Hey"

"Yo"

"Say"

"Aye chiquita, pa'ca!" Proceed to make hissing noises or whistle at her like a dog

Really anything I want. I don't cold approach a lot, but when I do, I just have fun with it.

Hellstruelight · 2015-06-18T03:25:10+00:00

What you say really doesn't matter. That said...

If you're waiting in the line at a bar, I like to listen for whatever the group ahead or behind me is talking about and then just interrupt them with "Hey were you just talking about [x subject] ? yeah I couldn't help but hear you. That's funny because ____ here and I were just talking about [quick story related to x subject]"

Conversation started.

RPmatrix · 2015-06-18T12:35:58+00:00

generally i say something random and if she replies in a positive way, and I'm in my zone and out hunting, I'll smile and then say "Hi, I'm RPM, what's your name?" and stick out my hand to shake theirs, but as she goes to shake it I'll take her hand in a 'grip' with our thumbs wrapped around each other ... whilst giving her a mysterious look and laughing at her response to the unexpected handshake"

then, and here's the killer line, I'll say something along the lines of "It's a non dominant handshake, nobody 'wins, (which is true, you can't easily get squeezed too hard or squeezed to the point of a hurt crushed hand with a 'grip') and it fits every sized hand, from little kids to bony grannies!" with a smile! And I'll Tell her to "squeeze me as hard as you can" ... and as she does, you squeeze back hard too and say to her, "see? I can't hurt you at all!" smiling like the cat who got the cream!

By that stage if we're still talking and I find out she's 'single' it's game on with the door open if I want!

I've pulled (and fucked, usually within a few hours) dozens of HB7up's using this method or a slight variation of it

I think it's becoz everything I've said in this (basically bullshit) conversation I've begun with her, is basically true! --- I've come across as confusingly (her mind) but honest (her 'heart') and IME chicks have finely tuned bullshit detectors inbuilt (BUT I'm not lying! at all! yet ...) -- they may not know 'what' you're lying about but they will know you're lying about something -- which IME is never good first up and why I use "basic honesty" to establish initial attraction in this situation

Being honest for the first few lines works well for me and once the attraction has been established you can say almost anything (lol seriously!) and still be able to fuck her in a few hours!

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alreadyredschool · 2015-06-17T19:29:07+00:00

You look like fun

Hey, I need some new friends

NidStyles · 2015-06-18T03:43:59+00:00

I usually just hard mode her in the eyes and wait until she looks down and ask her how she's doing in a self referred way. Such as: "I was wondering how you were doing this evening." Then just soften up and smile. It does two things. It disarms her immediately, and it shows her directly who is in charge from the start.

throw_em_all · 2015-06-17T19:35:01+00:00

I don't have openers, I just come up with them on the spot. Seriously, not humble bragging here, I realized that there's a pattern though and most stuff that I come up with I am honestly intrigued by, or at the very least there's a non pickup related purpose behind it.

Sometimes I think I have a rough "million dollar mouthpiece" because I don't have much trouble talking stuff that makes sense out of my ass without thinking about it, the trouble comes when calibrating the conversation.

My last five ones were:

You know how men either are man of boobs or man of ass right?, what's the equivalent in the female world?
Do you know X club? Have you been there lately? (at the time I was arguing with a friend whether we should give said club another chance or not, because the last time we went 2 years ago it was the worst ever.)
Is this place any good on thursdays? (I was honestly considering that bar to go solo on thursdays, so I really wanted to know)
Is making out cheating? What about if your boyfriend makes out with another dude? (remnant of my old days on the Mystery Method)
You have the most amazing eyes I've ever seen, do you like fucking bleach them? (She later told me most guys ask if she's wearing colored contacts, so I guess the concept of bleaching them was even more funny considering the usual to-go line of contacts. Like approaching a tall girl and not asking if she ever played basketball, if you go outside the expected, effect multiplies ten fold.)

edit: words.

BrajScience · 2015-06-17T18:23:06+00:00

"Hey, what are you girls up to tonight?"

Title	What is your usual opener?
Author	ryaznx
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Date	June 17, 2015 5:56 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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