What should I do?

FereallyRed · 2020-02-03T00:27:42+00:00

You have no drive because you've regressed to a child, and your parents are fully supporting your pathetic ass, so you don't need to do anything but exist.

Shitty place to be.

You have any desires? Anything you might like to try? Any cars turn you on? Want to fuck that hottie at Walmart?

If you're good being a lowest common denominator kind of guy then get mommy to build you a basement suite because you're going to inhabit that sad space with your lazy carcass until you die of a Cheeto mediated heart attack at 45.

Start adulting, stupid. Get a job, move out.

If you don't leave the nest you'll always be a child.

devontyb · 2020-02-03T00:27:55+00:00

Start lifting again, start taking cold showers, do something uncomfortable everyday, and get a job

Musicgoon · 2020-02-03T02:28:54+00:00

Get up early every day. Make your bed. Then go to the gym and lift heavy. Shower there and then go hop on a computer and look for jobs. One you get this as routine you'll feel better. You'll eventually get a job and social life. Then you can develop a mission.

Always start off by lifting. That will kick start energy and testosterone levels.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-02-03T04:06:17+00:00

you say in your replies to below that you are "comfortable" - yet you posted this question and keep replying, so there is hope for you yet - as you know, present comfort aside, that what you have going on is a road to nothing.

There is a saying that:

"taking it easy leads to a hard life and getting hard and working hard can help lead to an easier life"

you know, in the back of your mind this situation is not only not-ideal but on a rail way to catastrophe.

So, make a decision to simply not take it easy. Make a decision to every day go to the gym, to learn a skill, and journal your progress.

This time at home is both a safety net and a shackle, and you need to make it into a springboard. Or they one day get sick, die, and you'll still be there now destitute and getting evicted from the basement.

The nagging guilt the keeps you up at night is your mind knowing you could be doing so much more, so listen to it. Decide. And most importantly, ACT. On what specifically it does not matter, but be kinetic. Motion and activity first, from that you can eliminate the things that don't pan out or don't get you pumped.

soundnpound · 2020-02-03T04:08:21+00:00

Dude, you have depression (the physiological issue, not just feeling sad! A lot of guys here like to dismiss this as laziness or pathetic, but it is a medical condition). It's not an excuse, but definitely go see a Dr or therapist.

We all go through hard times, bad moods and failures, part of being a man (which you legally are now) is to keep on trying despite setbacks.

Look up the psychological term "behavioural activation". Basically, if you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got. And you are obviously sick of your situation right now. Depression will literally retard parts of you if you feed it, depressed people often talk slower and this would explain why you're so tired and need 10 hours of sleep after a day of doing nothing. You probably need to see a professional, but the best therapy in the world couldn't help you if you don't accept that 1) you have a problem and 2) you are actually capable of improving your situation.

It's not the end of the world if you dropped out of school and you don't have to spend (or waste!) the rest of your life thinking you're a failure. Stop praising and thanking people in these comments for insulting you for fuck sake, have more self respect than that.

You are going to have to leave the house eventually, the longer you put it off the more daunting and harder it will be. Do something different today, even if it's just going for a five minute walk or going to the store with your parents. Things won't change unless you change your behaviours.

Fear is normal. Fear gives most people energy. Fear can be overcome.

Try new things, get out of the house, get a job, aim to move out of your parents' home, get a car, get a driving license, try and become a black belt in a martial art, join a volley ball league, take up Latin dancing, find hobbies, if you're religious go to church/temple, learn about mindfulness meditation, read, go for a run, cut down on the video games, go back to school. Anything! Figure out what you want!

Finally, I'd recommend you listen to a red pill podcast called before the train wreck with Psychologist Dr Shaun Smith.

You can have a better life!

FinancialThanks1 · 2020-02-03T00:07:59+00:00

I’d start with getting a 9-5

RoadToTheBronze · 2020-02-03T00:56:01+00:00

You weren't red pill because you could dunk and went to the gym... and aside from that took some very basic fucking care of yourself.

Being red pill isn't about healthy living alone, because then all these crazy health yoga freaks would be RP as fuck.

How much of RP have you read? I think it's not the right starting point for you, as RP assumes you actually do want to make a chage in the first place, and RP main focus tends to be on inter-gender dynamics, wherease you aren't even there yet.

Also, don't go for a 9-5, that's fucking retarded, specially in your situation.
A: You won't get any good job without any skills
B: You seem to have a tendency to stick to where you're comfortable

So a 9-5 will probably be some shitty job you'll be stuck in because you're too comfortable to go for anything else.

So first, do you actually want to change?

Or are you satisfied with where you are?

It will be a fucking hard road to go from where you are into actually being a man you can be proud of yourself for, and I bet you dollar to donuts you'll want to quit nearly every day to slide back to your situation, as you'll miss the comfort.

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2020-02-03T00:10:45+00:00

Sounds like you got lazy, lost any vision of your own self-worth and are taking advantage of the free handouts from the Bank of Mom & Pop.

Sounds like a sweet gig... maybe take another 10 or 20 years and think about doing something productive then.

If you can move your fat ass out of bed.

905theshooterr · 2020-02-03T03:24:03+00:00

It sounds like your depressed my friend, asking for help online can come in good and negative ways, people can be great help and people can be mean. I would make an appointment with a doctor and go from there man, explain to them what’s going on. I’ve was depressed for a year and fell in a deep deep hole and the medication helped tremendously, I have now been off of it for a year and I’m doing great, I’m 20 years old. It will get better dude just keep your head up, do what’s best for you! Try and go for a walk tomorrow man. In my opinion I don’t agree with going for a full time job right now I think you should take things slowly. 1 step at a time. Hope I didn’t come off harsh.

cydestiny · 2020-02-03T02:58:04+00:00

Pick up Mastery by Robert Greene.

Wishing that the Internet will give you direction of life is like wanting Superman to save you from your 9to5.

You're 19 and burnt out? You have no idea how lucky you're to be 19 at this age.

Not going to waste my time convincing you anything but my advice is to start by making a living for yourself, pay your parents every dime they spend on you, that's your life goal now, go work on it.

throwawayok272728492 · 2020-02-03T03:52:03+00:00

I’m no doctor but it is obvious you want a change to happen in your life, otherwise you wouldn’t be here. You need to move on with your life dude. Go find a job, it doesn’t have to be something you enjoy either. You can use your current rent free situation to build up some cash to buy your own vehicle. Do research and get something reliable long term, I.e. not a mustang. Avoid getting into debt for this vehicle, it should last you a few years to get to work and to get you to dates. Then move out. Find a place, doesn’t need to be the greatest you just need to be able to afford it. Aim to spend 1/4 of your take home pay on rent so you can have money for other things, like figuring out what you really want to do.

adomuzas · 2020-02-03T07:44:55+00:00

Cut out all the noise from your life, like the internet, porn, useless entertainment. Don't be afraid to suffer. If you are here you have goals in life, but you are afraid to start the journey because you see the shit you are in and how much it will take to get out of it. Suffering is what builds a man. Motivation is crap, don't wait to feel motivated, its just a spark to start moving, the spark later forms into fire (dedication), fire forms into catastrophe (obsession). The more you challenge yourself, the stronger your mind will be, the happier you will be. My words may sound like bullshit, at least listen to this guy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvWB7B8tXK8 and read his book. You are welcome

Vamlack · 2020-02-03T08:04:27+00:00

I'd say a good start would be talking anout this with your parents. Maybe start doing chores around the house just to have something to do, go for walks, things like this.

Try going outside at least once a day, even if it's just for buying milk down the street. From experience, you quickly become addicted to it!

And the best solution to me once you're feeling more active: start lookong for a job. Responsabilities, objectives and a good "rythm" (going to bed and waking up at the same hours everyday) are what you need. You can even stay at your parents home for now, as long as you help with rent.

I know it's hard (been through this) but you can do it!

cockmaster197 · 2020-02-03T08:15:27+00:00

Start lifting, and learn how to trade foreign exchange

LayTheUnicorn · 2020-02-03T11:36:50+00:00

I'm 20 I was in the same boat as you for the last two years , didnt care about anything and was floating when I was younger 13 I was redpilled in all aspects apart from women, life was good, so I can relate. from your replies I can see your looking to improve and your intelligent, probably have a logical brain that focuses on facts and you might have excelled particularly at science and maths just a guess, now your cormfatble because of your parents and lifestyle. First thing is to set boundaries with your parents second thing is if there is anything that interests you go and do it even if your brain tells you it's stupid, from what you said there is a doubt because now your lacking confidence, join a sports team again, get a job/back to uni, move out of your parents place ASAP, read self help books/side bar, take action and realise that life is meaningless until you find that thing that's makes you go oh shit I'm living for this ( could be 2 weeks or maybe 40 years), now stop thinking start acting, take it day by day and you'll find yourself back to your old ways alot sooner than you hoped for, hope my advice helped

Keletirios · 2020-02-03T12:17:26+00:00

Go and find a gf.

Goes utterly against TRP principles of spinning plates, but the shame of being inferior to a girl who has her life together better than you while you are content to be indolent should drive your ass up the wall.

It's a head start, and if/when she breaks it off with you for being a good for nothing it should give you an even bigger power boost.

wowkwo · 2020-02-03T17:25:46+00:00

Just do stuff, get out of the house.

You're only 19 you have your entire life in front of you, why waste it?

ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2020-02-03T17:33:14+00:00

Fourteen hours in bed every day?

Go and get some fresh air, man!

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2020-02-03T03:29:16+00:00

go to community college dumbass

2020-02-03T04:37:15+00:00

You probably think you are smarter than you actually are. Go get a job in fast food.

Title	What should I do?
Author	RoadToTheBronze
Upvotes	29
Comments	53
Date	February 3, 2020 12:05 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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