Why the fuck can't I get/keep it up?

Da_SnowLeopard · 2021-03-25T21:22:13+00:00

Its because you're on day 1 of quitting porn and because you smoke.

I watched porn daily from 15-19ish... when I tried to fuck my girlfriend sometimes I'd get hard, sometimes I wouldn't, sometimes I'd get hard and lose it, sometimes I couldn't finish and sometimes I finished super late.

I quit watching porn and I basically couldn't get a boner for nearly 7 months. I had absolutely no libido and I was basically just eating my gf out so she didn't have to go without sex during this period. Finally it started coming back and things where working smooth again.

And then I quit smoking on top of that and it was like a 1.5x amplifier on all the benefits quitting porn brought.

Porn is fucking devastating, if I watch it once now I don't want to fuck for like 3 days. If I'm particularly depressed and go on a little binge for a few days I'm basically flatlined for a week or two. Don't watch that shit

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-03-25T22:07:23+00:00

1) Mental block of some sort.

2) dehydration. Most ppl don't know about this.

3) condom problem. Start wearing condoms when you're looking at women online. Get used to getting rock hard with one on.

4) new chick anxiety. Calm your nerves, stop being overanxious about performance.

5) eat 4 eggs everyday, especially the night before a big date or hookup.

6) supplement b complex.

7) noFap and semen retention.

If none of that works...idk

lieutenantdong · 2021-03-25T22:22:06+00:00

What your brain understands and thinks is ill tap in when i need to cum to porn. By doing that your mainly focussing on the dopamine and instant access. You're then associating this with your release and think you can do the same when it comes to sex.

Meanwhile when it comes to the act, your torn between the inability to manage your trigger points and whats really going on.

Look...sex is intimate, its being vulnerable feeling something you dont share with other people and rubbing it together and the act of cumming is the height of that. Some cant get hard, some go soft before cumming due to the good feeling but the pressure of becoming vulnerable then hits.

Cumming with a girl involves letting your guard down (anxiety or peace) and having to deal with the comfort drug (oxytocin). Its natural and you've lost that in your brain mapping.

What i recommend is no porn. Think back to your first bj and when your dick felt summit special. Itll reignite your old patterns youve lost.

Get your test up through working out, vit d tablets, sunbathing if you can.

If you gotta wank do it no porn and dont grip too tight as a pussy doesnt. Think about how sensitive your dick really is and should be. Also mix it up so your not always on your back jerking it.

CoyoteMiyamoto · 2021-03-25T21:23:47+00:00

I'm now on day 1 on quitting it

Lol. Sounds like you've already recognized the problem and put the necessary solution in place. Also, stop smoking.

What you're experiencing sounds very much like performance anxiety.

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themostgianthorse · 2021-03-25T21:46:58+00:00

Schedule your annual physical ASAP and discuss with your (hopefully male) doctor.

Based on what you’ve described, it doesn’t sound like there’s anything wrong with you. You have some performance anxiety. Totally normal. The only way through this is exposure. Let go of your attachment to the outcome.

You are wise to not use pills as a crutch.

BlondeHornyElf · 2021-03-26T02:00:34+00:00

look up angion method

PhaedrusHunt · 2021-03-26T03:21:49+00:00

It's in your head. Work on your confidence. Drink more water.

oooKenshiooo · 2021-03-26T03:54:08+00:00

While most has been addressed there is also such a thing as being too horny. Basically in that case there is too much adrenaline in your system, causing constriction of the blood vessels, resulting in a non boner.

To check for this: is your boner better if you fuck for a second time?

AhuraMazda88 · 2021-03-26T04:49:14+00:00

You have ED bc of too much porn.Stop beating your meat man lay off the addiction.

Leone_brt · 2021-03-26T07:26:08+00:00

Reduce food with saturated fats also.

rad_dynamic · 2021-03-27T21:44:34+00:00

Need to relax

It’s like sleeping the harder you try the harder it is to sleep and the suddenly it’s morning

Basically you need time out the game say 2 weeks of no sex or porn or wanking and then meet up with a girl and you will get a boner and be a ravenous mother fucker

Efficient_Film_149 · 2021-03-25T21:21:24+00:00

The porn means nothing contrary to the endless gay messages you’re about to get. See a doctor.

Title	Why the fuck can't I get/keep it up?
Author	throwawaylilbastard
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Date	March 25, 2021 9:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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