21 year old virgin need pointers.

Imaginary_Driver21 · 2022-03-29T02:43:27+00:00

I am 22 and used to be in the same situation as you (out of shape, socially awkward around girls, etc). First and foremost, you need be working out on a regular basis so you are at least somewhat physically fit. I used to be very out of shape and getting into shape boosted my confidence.

Since you are 21, I assume you are in college. If so, join some sort of club to meet people (guys and girls). Having female friends around you is very good for your social skills. From my experience, other girls notice when you have girls around you. It tells them you are a safe person to be around (at least from a distance). Talk to girls in your classes if it’s the right situation (i.e you are in a group, you see her before or after class and you actually have something interesting to say). Don’t just approach for the sake of approaching. It’s obvious to anyone on the receiving end if you are trying too hard.

Go to parties/bars. Girls don’t spend hours getting ready to go out Friday and Saturday nights just to have no one talk to them. Just have a normal conversation and see where it goes from there.

Read the body language, but that just takes practice. You will eventually be able to tell when you should approach. For example, I didn’t approach any girls when I first started going out with friends because I was lost and never had the experience before. After months of practice, it’s actually pretty easy to tell with body language when to you should approach.

You can’t worry about whether or not you succeed. You are going to be denied more often than you wish (every guy can attest to that), but you can’t let it bother you a bit. You have to be aggressive (not physically or verbally, but in your mind). Be the guy having fun, not standing in the corner with his arms crossed.

Stujitsu2 · 2022-03-29T03:13:58+00:00

Dating apps suck. You should practice talking to girls by talking to girls any time you have opportunity. Then when a conversation goes well you should ask when they are available to grab a drink. If you can, set date immediately. If not exchange numbers. Wait 4 days to call/text. Then say when are you available to meet for a drink? Or if you already set the date just text her the day of saying tonight is still good for me how about you know where you are meeting her you have to plan it not her. Don't touch her on the date unless she touches you and do reciprocate something similar if she does. Go for the kiss rather she touched you or not however.

Here are the things to watch for

Most women are going to reject you. Its nothing personal its just logistics. Its a numbers game. A phone number does not prove she will meet you for a date.

The phone is for making plans not getting to know each other. Its to set dates. One on one kind. No group no doubles nothing of the sort.

If a woman cannot commit to meeting at a specific time and place she is not interested. If she cancels plans she is not interested usually. Sometimes life happens to women too. If she does any of this shit just say come find me if you change your mind. And leave it up to her to reach out to you again. If you go for the kiss and she gives the cheek or pulls back, she is not interested. If you ask for her phone number and she offers social media she is not interested. Dont waste time with people who are not interested.

This basic shit should get you started. Ask 10 women out and report back. Journal it if you can. What you said she said whatever you remember.

cass2769 · 2022-03-29T02:57:01+00:00

First of all you need to see the value in yourself. What are the good qualities you have that would make you a good partner? It’s not too late by any means.

Find the things you like about yourself. Get on some dating apps and see how it goes.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-03-29T15:47:10+00:00

Dating apps are much harder, you need to be a super good looking to stand out, have great photos and them have tremendous social skills over texts, you need far between social skills in texts than in real life.

So no. If you sick in real life at flirting then texting only amplifies that even more.

You need to be fun, playful, flirty, with girls when you talk to them the goal is not to exchange factual information about each other the goal is to make her laugh and be in a good mood so that you can escalate without objections.

So yeah you need to focus on getting reactions from them not

2022-03-29T18:49:22+00:00

You need to start eating healthy, and working out. Also join social events and make friends, especially female friends because you think about dating. You can't do the advanced stuff without the basics.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-29T13:21:42+00:00

If you are still a virgin there is only one reason. You are not horny enough to take action and do what needs to be done.

H8beingmale · 2022-03-29T03:13:01+00:00

21 and never been kissed can definetley feel too late for that, but for sex not as much, more people enter their 20s as virgins than we think, well early 20s especially, 25 seems to be when people panic the most, its not for everyone but plenty of guys have no regrets losing their v-card to a sex worker or escort

VDKay · 2022-03-29T07:30:12+00:00

read these (2 parts): https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/imcq2e/turned\_30\_as\_a\_virgin\_now\_1\_year\_later\_after\_a/

2022-03-29T16:04:54+00:00

Whatever you do do not go on dating apps... unless you have nice pics. Bro these apps are not good for men mental health

4everalone75 · 2022-05-11T08:19:19+00:00

I'm 21 and also an incel. Never even kissed a girl or held a girl's hand. Fuckin sucks but you're not alone, man.

Title	21 year old virgin need pointers.
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Date	March 29, 2022 2:30 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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