29 year old virgin - update

fsmgonzalez · 2015-07-01T10:36:01+00:00

Universal truth: You're never too old to be young!

sunday_silence · 2015-07-01T17:09:36+00:00

why do yo need to go to bars? I am 52 and meeting tons of women on that meetup.com site that has tons of stuff for just about every stupid hobby/interest imaginable. Like movies? or knitting? or dogs? or hemp? or knitting dogs out of hemp? there's just a bunch of clubs I joined, it costs nothing, or you give them $2 when you get to an event. There's meetups for people who are shy, people who into sex, etc. etc.

Try to do some stuff sober. I never got much out of the bar scene. I tend to make friends by talking to people. When I look back on it, nearly ever single great friend in my life when I met them initially it started out with some long drawn out deep conversation. Thats just how I am. You maybe more shy, maybe dont like to talk, I dunno. But try doing some groups like this, the best thing is it costs you nothing but maybe a gallon of gas and some time and its sober.

hijiggy · 2015-07-01T17:59:00+00:00

who cares if ur alone chat chicks at bars, avoid groups bigger than 2 and if they ask where your friends are.

"My friends? I killed them all."

"I have no friends, not even my cat."

agree and amplify

astrobonghit · 2015-07-01T17:11:25+00:00

Please post a picture of yourself at your best. You sound way toooooo hard on yourself.

silvertongue35 · 2015-07-02T16:50:40+00:00

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. Best money you will spend on a book.

Go to the gym and lift.

throfosho888 · 2015-07-01T17:34:34+00:00

go join a social dance club i did it on a whim, and don't tell any of your friends your doing it, next time there's a big shindig your friends are doing (like a wedding) you can just a move and it feels sssooo good.

plus it fun as fuck as keeps you fit, and this IS a great way to meet/hook up with strangers.

pianobrah · 2015-07-01T18:41:02+00:00

Stop analyzing and reanalyzing everything about you and what is the right, wrong move to do. Just go out and start talking to girls. Flirt with them. Become a man.

MrBDIU · 2015-07-01T18:49:55+00:00

Practice talking to people. Really, it helps. Talk to the people in line at the supermarket, at the bank. Anywhere. Striking up a conversation with ANY stranger is nerve wracking - but it is also a skill. And one that you can practice. It builds confidence and that is a key factor in any approach with women.

Eatbig-getbig · 2015-07-02T23:24:19+00:00

You seem really focused on this am I ugly thing, but remember that this is literally a sub that people would only go to because either they think they are ugly or they want to make fun of others. You are still working on yourself and part of that is improving your appearance where you can, and accepting the aspects that you can, looks matter but they certainly aren't everything.

raiseurT · 2015-07-03T05:28:37+00:00

Problems: 1. Going out alone sucks, find some younger guys (early 20's) more likely to be single, and going out to hunt that beaver. Daygame is awesome, find a daytime environment that is social and approach there, being alone shouldn't matter in this case. 3. Better to be creepy/desperate than nonexistant to a girl.

chiliehead · 2015-07-01T18:48:25+00:00

Your Inner Game is very weak. As bad as you describe yourself, it can´t be. I skimmed your first post, you already had lots of accomplishments.

Did you read the sidebar? "Models"? Might be very important for you.

You´re not too old for going out and going out alone is no shame either. And it´s not creepy to approach as long as you´re well groomed and believe it´s not creepy. How do people meet each other? They have to talk to each other. Even friends have once been strangers.

For meeting people, be creative. Join clubs. Use the internet. /r/R4R, meetup.com and so much more. Tinder and co. are a tough place and not in any way like real life.

Maybe try meditating. I recommend watching some 21st Convention speaks from Nick Sparks, Liam McRae and many more and the RSD Guys (especially Tyler) on Inner Game, Escalation, Conversation. I could recommend you a few vids if you want me to. You don´t have to agree with them, but lots of their ideas are, in my opinion, true and truly game changing.

There´s a pain period of a couple months you have to overcome before reaching your goals, stick with self developing.

Title	29 year old virgin - update
Author	throfosho888 [recovered]
Upvotes	22
Comments	17
Date	July 1, 2015 10:27 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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