Long story short: OKCupid + me + girl = date

First date: Originally, we planned on a bike ride. Due to our busy schedules, it was going to be at night, but we changed to dinner instead. It went exceedingly well - I was on my game while being myself.

Second date: A couple of weeks later (she was out of town), we went to the velodrome to watch the tandem track nationals. We were there for a couple of hours having fun, and the drive was at least an hour each way. No awkward silent moments, mutual appreciation for the Presidents of the United States of America (the band), a good time had by all. At the end of the night, I started to make some comment about the awkward goodbye, but then said "I'm going for it," leaned in and kissed her. She didn't push away, there was tongue, and she ended up touching my face for the 20 or so seconds we were interlocked.

Two days later: received a phone call from her saying that she didn't want to lead me on, was only interested in me platonically, but really enjoyed my company. I was a little taken aback, but I agreed.

Third "get together": We talked about a bike ride over this past weekend, but the weather didn't really cooperate. Her bike was also stolen Friday night, though she was already planning on getting a new bike on Saturday. I offered to get her a drink on Saturday when I was finished working, and she agreed, so we went to the park with a box of wine (it was actually decent box wine, believe it or not). It wasn't weird or anything, and neither of us brought up the kiss - we just had a fun time; however, there were a couple of times when she got a little more than chummy (a fair amount of touching & hugging, the kind that would totally make me think she was very much into me).

I realize that some women can be a little more touchy-feely than others, but nevertheless this is sending my little brain into a spiral. I feel like I'm probably going to answer my own question by pointing out all the possibilities, but neverthless, here are all the possibilities that I can think of:

1) she's into me, but I moved too fast 2) she's not into me, but she's just more affectionate than most 3) this is some kind of strange game where she's testing me to see if I'm just in it to get laid (I doubt this one, but I don't know her well enough yet)

Am I overreacting, underreacting, or... properly reacting?