6 dates now. Do tactics change?

hunterpua · 2020-05-27T19:39:37+00:00

Do you have reasons to hang out other than because you're into each other?

Because it sounds to me like you're going for a relationship with this girl. If that's the case then you wanna be doing more than just eating and drinking when you go out on dates.

You wanna be doing things that each of you wanna do. Expose each other to your hobbies and interests. Go to places that each of you would go to with a bunch of friends.

In fact, you should invite her to come hang out with you and your buddies and let her know you'd be cool hanging out with her and her friends too.

Creating a relationship is about welcoming her into your life and becoming more of a part of her life as well.

The frequency of texting should naturally adjust depending on how involved you are with each other's lives because there will be more plans to be made and more topics to discuss.

However, if you just want a casual situation then just fuck her really good and keep inviting her over to your place for more sex. The texting will naturally be less frequent if all you talk about and plan for is fucking each other.

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OrzhovPalatine · 2020-05-27T19:40:39+00:00

I hope those days were cheap. The 5th date is pretty late for sex, I always recommend guys cut their losses by date 3.

At this point you just keep hanging out, have fun and lay pipe until she has the "where is this going?" speech if you want a commitment.

As for her complaining, let her complain. Dont bend over and keep doing what you're doing. Never listen to what a girl says, watch what she does.

Also keep in mind you messed up somewhere if you had to wait till date 5 for sexy time. Her attraction level for you likely isnt that high.

2020-05-27T19:40:43+00:00

She doesn’t like it but it keeps her wondering, “what is Alex up to?” I’ve heard somewhere on like weird facts that relationships where the couples go on dates one night a week are super healthy and longer lasting. Also when you put time in between, it lets her take more time to get to know you and figure you out. If she finds everything out super quickly then she might lose interest. Women love mystery, but I don’t know shit about women. I just know what some pick up artist needs say.

Goruto1334 · 2020-05-27T20:04:06+00:00

Let her bring up the idea of a relationship. If she brings it up, talk about it then. For now just enjoy having her to have a great day with with no strings. If she starts to like you enough she will bring it up, it may be subtle though so be aware and a good listener.

STD_Tyler · 2020-05-27T22:51:10+00:00

5 dates to fuck!? Are you guys Koreans?

thundabot · 2020-05-28T00:11:18+00:00

Amazes me how guys in this age group complicate things so much and have this perception that to get ‘x’ you must do ‘y’. Every girl is different and every relationship is different. You should be communicating with each other to find out what you both want. There’s no set ‘rules’ to follow. Things should evolve naturally and if one person wants more/less it should be talked about. And go from there.

Wulfe_84 · 2020-05-28T00:45:20+00:00

Stop thinking. That’s for women.

HoobaDooba420 · 2020-05-27T22:13:18+00:00

Bro 3 date rule

quinnmcd · 2020-05-28T03:38:45+00:00

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keepinitre · 2020-05-28T06:40:50+00:00

Yes. You said that you are possibly interested in a relationship with her and you already have attraction with her. Now you can safely build up as much rapport and connection as you want. Once attraction is there it is fine (and actually part of the benefits of relationship) that you can focus on connection, while still maintaining a spark, which you seem to clearly be doing. I agree with the assessment that you may be over-gaming at this point! I have made both mistakes before: not first developing attracion before connecting, and also continuing to focus on attraction when it was time to also focus on connection.

surffreak336 · 2020-05-27T19:34:24+00:00

You’re asking us if you can text and have conversations with a girl you’re dating....

Timely-Art-1 · 2020-05-27T19:37:37+00:00

Go on another date, hook up and during pillow talk bring up the topic of the relationship.

anto2554 · 2020-05-27T19:33:57+00:00

Ask her

Title	6 dates now. Do tactics change?
Author	mt_1994
Upvotes	8
Comments	24
Date	May 27, 2020 7:28 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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