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6 tips on how to give GOOD advice

Binxstar

April 11, 2012

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Title	6 tips on how to give GOOD advice
Author	Binxstar
Upvotes	33
Comments	19
Date	April 11, 2012 6:26 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/s4pwc/6_tips_on_how_to_give_good_advice/
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I have found that being hard on yourself is ok as long as you realize that how hard on yourself is reasonable.

For instance if you are told you must complete a project in 2 days. Now you are a skilled worker yet this project is only halfway done in 2 days it doesn't mean that you suck. It just means that project takes more than 2 days.

I used to get pissed when I knew I wasn't going to make deadlines. The thing is nobody could make the deadlines sometimes that are set. I cannot work any harder than my limits. I can work hard to increase my limits but it is impossible to perform better than I can perform. Idealy it would be great but the thing is, reality consistently wins. Ideals are meant to help you grow and keep you from being stagnant. Reality is meant to keep things realistic. Reality is a fantastic boundary.

So it is ok to be hard on yourself as long as you aren't being a douche to yourself. I used to be and it just made me bitter and resentful towards my goals.

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