-Chasing is pursuing someone who shows little interest in you, who is unavailable emotionally or physically. Chasing occurs when the person who is pursuing exhibits a lack of self-respect, and does not value their own time. The other person is the center of their world.

-Courting is being proactive and putting forth effort for someone who exhibits the same level of emotional investment, or at least the same level of overall respect. The other person is highly valued, but not the center of the other’s emotional universe.

-Chasing involves buying gifts, dinners, or other high priced items to win affection, which ultimately almost always fails.

-Courting focuses on making the other person FEEL a certain way— it emphasizes experiences rather than objects. It is about making the person feel safe, protected, and having them experience positive emotions.

-When chasing occurs, the pursuer initiates almost all contact.

-In courting, both pursuer and the person being pursued initiate contact, if even if it is not completely equal, it is somewhat balanced

-Chasing is an insecure, validation-seeking behavior for someone who does not ultimately value or respect you

-Being courted is showing appreciation and taking initiative for someone who shows you the same amount of interest, or at least respect.

-Women who are physically attractive, but who lack emotional maturity or substance love being chased. They thrive selfishly off attention, and the power that comes with being emotionally unavailable and leading people on. They are often clout chasers. They are not relationship material.

-Women who are courted are women of high character. They know their worth and enjoy being appreciated, but do so in a manner that is respectful. They are upfront, honest and emotionally mature. They are relationship material.