A little rant

softwaredev · 2022-06-30T01:52:04+00:00

Dude, you asked your crush out and she accepted, you had the balls and were able to get the woman of your dreams but you fed it up because of your inexperience, this is something that can be worked on, cheer up man you are on the right track 👍👍👍👍

SPENCEandtonic · 2022-06-30T07:15:23+00:00

When it comes to conversation specifically. Look up the New York Times article 36 questions that lead to love.

It's a great list of questions that are deep and open ended and answering them requires vulnerability. Some of them are more fun than others, some are a little too deep, but they will teach you how to talk more interestingly and open ended.

Those are great for building comfort and trust. If you can sprinkle in some funny or interesting life experiences in some of your answers, then you're on your way to building attraction. Of course, if you ask a girl "Out of everyone on the planet, who would she most likely want to have dinner with and why?" she's going to answer, and then ask you. So prepare some good witty answers and have fun with it!

Also, make assumptions about her. They don't have to make any sense but they're fun and playful. Tell her you get this feeling she's a crybaby because the girl you lived next door to as a kid had curly hair and always cried. Or that she's really girly because she looks like she's wearing designer cargo pants. Or that shes super hipster because she has 7 rings on and you bet she doesn't even shave her armpits.

All these are teases that, if done playfully, can build attraction and they're way more interesting than just asking about someone's day or work.

I seriously don't know anything about horoscopes but I always tell girls to download the Costar app on Iphone and we read each others horoscopes and it makes for great conversation too.

As for date ideas, OP, here are a few I used recently. I went on a date with this girl and brought a notebook and midway through we wrote down our first impressions of each other but we didn't show them. Instead I sealed them in an envelope and gave it to her and we decided we weren't going to read them for a month.

I've also brought sketchbooks to bars and we've drawn portraits of each other. Once I brought markers and we drew tattoos on each other.

OP, think outside the box and have fun on dates. It's about enjoying each others company.

As for not feeling interesting, I think a lot of us feel that way sometimes. Try more new things. Go to a concert in a new city all by yourself. Join a dance class. Go play pick up sand volleyball. Take a motorcycle course. Go shoot some guns. Ever been rock climbing? It's so easy to start indoor bouldering and you'll feel like an absolute legend.

OP, you got this. Listen to a little more Drake because you're an Underground King, my man.

Therocksays2020 · 2022-06-30T00:00:10+00:00

Counseling and therapy. It’s a great way to rebuild your lost confidence.

Even if you aren’t interesting on your own you can become good at flirting and asking questions with practice.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-06-30T07:32:25+00:00

Feel sry for you but lucky enough you just have a fucked up mindset. Usually what you think of yourself people gonna think the same about you. If you think that you're boring af and not interesting guess what they gonna see and think about you? exactly the same thing but if you start to think about I'm interesting, everybody gonna be lucky to be in my life you're gonna be right. What I could suggest is a book called how to break the habit of being yourself it's gonna help with your self-image a lot and you mentioned that you wanna be more interesting and have an interesting life. You can be interesting verbally or nono verbally so non verbally simply if you use your hands, gestures, you change your tonality you gonna seem more engaging and interesting. Verbally ofc it's about what you say. What helped me a lot is just simply curious and open-minded, if you're interested in anything learn about it, it also helps if you find something that you are really passionate about like it used to be skating for me. The last thing maybe just get used to leaving your house. Go to random places for no reason, talk to random people for no reason, try out new things for no reason jus to enjoy yourself then you gonna have a lot more interesting stories and interesting life and you let things happen to you

Lesade87 · 2022-07-04T04:13:45+00:00

Hey bro, look up conversational threading, you'll never run out of things to say, I went from 2 minutes to 4 hours effortlessly the very next day after learning this technique. The question game is also amazing (you ask one, she asks one), but you have to play it smart, steer hard into relationships, then once it's clear that's what you're looking for from her, steer even harder towards intimacy, then into sex.

For confidence, mindset, and approach, Woujo has a great blog, Adam Lane Smith has a fantastic youtube channel, but nothing beats practice.

Best of luck man, hope to see your success story here one of these days!

IkoIkonoclast · 2022-06-30T14:46:59+00:00

When developing a crush there is a tendency to imagine certain attributes and interactions.

Often when a guy finally gets some time with his crush he finds out she isn't really what he imagined.

There's nothing wrong with you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and try all over again.

Title	A little rant
Author	ScaryPerformance3872
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	June 29, 2022 11:49 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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