Abundance vs delusion

OpinionThink481 · 2025-12-15T15:21:09+00:00

Abundance mindset is not necessarily about having women lined up that are already sold on you, although that could be part of it.

The core principle of an abundance mindset is about understanding that every woman no matter how good and hot she is, is replaceable.

That you don’t need an specific woman to be happy with your life, that she is not the last woman that will ever like you, that there will be just as great or even better eventually if you keep socializing, and that there are plenty of fish in the sea that you can approach and meet by simply going outside and walking up to them to stay a conversation.

So the abundance is about being willing to let go of women who giving you breadcrumbs, maybes and to let go of women who lose interest in you without fighting for them to keep them around (which is 99% of the time a needy move driven by a scarcity mindset).

Not treating a specific woman like she is your last hope, or your savior from a life of eternal solitude, and not treating her like she is the most attractive woman you’ll meet or like you have to cling onto her no matter what because you don’t think you’ll find better than her again.

So abundance mindset is an internal mental state where you don’t confusing love and desire with neediness and desperation,… not about bragging to women that you have so many girls interested in you, or pretending that you do.

The abundance mindset thus changes your behavior from needy and approval-seeking to being unfiltered, fearless, and daring because you don’t care anymore whether a woman likes you or not or stays or not.

Since you simply know that you can meet more and that if she or other women liked you in the past, then you can get new ones to like you in the future.

merchant_of_mirrors · 2025-12-15T17:58:46+00:00

Abundance mindset is not about your past success. It's about your frame and how you view women. Putting them on a pedestal and getting butthurt when one girl acts out is bad. Understanding that no woman is special and that you can always meet a new one when things go wrong with the current one is good, and shows an abundance mindset. Nothing delusional about that. It is true. You develop it by getting out there and realizing that women are just as flawed as us and that they too are trying to impress the opposite sex. Treat them like people and you'll see they're really not all that, even the hot ones.

Brundesgut · 2025-12-15T14:36:31+00:00

It's to always remember you have bagged a woman in the past and you can do it again. That your approach works and if she has problem with it, you are not going to change it, but acknowledge she is not meant for you.

Basically, explained on the most extreme case: If your game up until now was going to the club, finding a girl you liked most and whispering in her ear: "I want to fuck your ass" and it worked good enough that you were happy with it, you won't crumble when another woman calls you a creep, but dismiss her.

InvestigatorFull1364 · 2025-12-15T18:46:51+00:00

Abundance mindset is a lie in this interpretation. What you are looking for is "Courage", i.e. to feel ok with what the future holds regardless of outcome.

At the end of the day, isn't that what "abundance mindset" aims to achieve, convince you that the future is ok, because you will have more opportunities. But... it is too broad of advice.

All social skills are context driven. So a behaviour that is acceptable now, can be uncalibrated later, this goes for confidence, courage, and the mindset you are looking for.

Hence, there is no "specific fits all" advice to your issue. It is only understanding your deep core and the source of your emotions.

Here are some articles that explain these well:

Courage: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/11/18/the-essence-of-courage/
Confidence and calibration: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/11/15/power-structures-and-the-generalised-shit-test/
Mindsets for approaching (abundance mindset of some sorts): https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/08/23/the-initial-stop/
AA: https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/05/02/approach-anxiety-is-a-feature-not-a-bug/

ComfortableSir4327 · 2025-12-15T23:21:50+00:00

It's a form of self-actualization. Literally "I think, therefore I am, proven by when I get."

Key-Proud · 2025-12-16T02:09:57+00:00

To develop one is to behave like one. - once you get reference experiences it eventually be comes true.

Title	Abundance vs delusion
Author	Kindly-Tough-2091
Upvotes	9
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Date	December 15, 2025 2:25 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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