AH! Help Seddit! Texting now. Made plans last night to go out tonight, now she's throwing a wrench in the gears!

TofuTofu · 2011-02-19T01:20:39+00:00

I generally like to reply "kk"

Not responding makes you seem reactive (by being passive aggressive). Rubbing her face in it with "you used up one pass" hurts your abundance mentality frame.

She probably really got delayed and can't go out. So be compassionate (a solid value to have) while sending the message you don't really give that big a fuck about it.

That's how I would personally handle it. But your mileage may vary.

Softcorps_dn · 2011-02-18T20:59:20+00:00

You want to make her feel like she blew a chance at hanging out with you. Maybe something along the lines of "ok you used up a pass tonight, you've only got one left!" This shows you're not upset but she can't pull the same stunt over and over and get away with it.

Unless she comes back with an alternative ("lets get lunch tomorrow instead") wait til early next week to set up plans for next weekend. Don't let it seem like the rest of this weekend is still open (you're a popular busy guy right? right)

brutally_honest_ · 2011-02-19T01:47:39+00:00

From the text game part of my last FR:

The next day she texts me saying she's not sure if she can make it for wine Saturday. I respond that that's too bad, but that's more for me [;-)]so it's ok, and ask what came up since the last time we talked. She says she forgot she had to work and had already made other plans, and asks if she can bribe me into changing our drinks-night. I tell her I'll give her a one-time raincheck that expires next weekend. Main points: Be confident throughout your interaction, if she flakes it's not going to ruin your night, and if you want to re-schedule put her on a time constraint. Also, bitches love smiley faces.

ihugtrees5 · 2011-02-19T07:53:44+00:00

Hey I've been the girl in this situation before. Made plans with a guy I really liked but then had to ask to reschedule because I'd forgotten it was a friend's birthday.

Just roll with it, don't make her feel bad about. Just be like: No problem, we'll find another time.

unsexyMF · 2011-02-18T20:52:21+00:00

Calm down. Reschedule. Shit happens.

el_chief · 2011-02-19T06:53:19+00:00

don't listen to these fools. this has been covered deeply over on roissy.

either send her a one word response "gay"

or an ascii penis: 8====o

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