Always having to start the conversation

AyJusKo · 2013-12-30T09:12:51+00:00

They might not feel comfortable enough around you to let themselves loose or they are very shy. Either way, you're the man so LEAD. Don't worry about who's conversations. Worry more about "is she having an awesome time talking to me?" Have fun conversations where you guys get to joke around and be goofy. That will have them see you as a fun guy and they'll feel more comfortable. Then you want to transition to talking about when you guys are gonna hang out next.

Skyping is cool and all, but if you're having really long conversations (more than 5-10 minutes) and you're not setting up dates, then you're not playing the game. Long conversations should be reserved for face-to-face interactions, at least until you guys start dating each other more often.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2013-12-29T19:39:51+00:00

Don't confront them about it. Why do you care that you always have to start the conversation. Why are you spending so much time on skype when you should be getting outside, don't you want to have sex with girls.

Ask yourself these questions and then you'll realize that you having to always start a conversation is pretty meaningless.

junk2sa · 2013-12-29T23:38:38+00:00

Which are your conversations more like? Are they more like interviews, or more like two people joking about nothing serious at all?

I suspect that your conversations are more like "so, what kind of music do you like?" Get rid of all those kinds of conversations. That information will make itself known as you spend time together, without the uncomfortable interview.

Cali_Val · 2013-12-30T00:45:17+00:00

when you Skype, tell them you can only Skype for a bit. Just because you've both talked about it, but you gotta go grocery shopping, or meet a friend, or whatever it is. I can only stay for a few minutes or so.. Also. Look groomed when youre skyping. make sure the lighting is right, make sure you look your best before you actually hit that call button

If she's quiet, its most likely because you haven't built enough value yet. start pinging in some things. women love a guy who works out, that's an easy one. So go actually workout. And let her know subtly when youre done (ahh I just added an extra 5 pounds to my bench, im so tired, but I cant wait to hit 180 pounds, etc.) If youre not getting anywhere regardless of pinging. Start negging. If negging don't help. then ditch that bitch. her ego is too inflated and you don't need to waste your time trying to change her. jump on to someone that's a better person and continue working on yourself..

ALSO PS

its better to mention strength increase or tiredness than something like " I feel less fatter " Unless you're working towards a six pack and are nearly there in that case (I can see my top two abs, I think about a month and i'll have a full out six pack)

stealthcreeper · 2013-12-29T19:46:28+00:00

be a man!!! say what you feel, say to them that when they dont initiate conversation it puts a lot of pressure on you and you feel bad, if they keep being passive, tell them to go fuck themselfs

I've been trough that

Title	Always having to start the conversation
Author	sedditalt88
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	December 29, 2013 7:13 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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