Am I being too nice?

unevendopamine2 · 2024-08-22T17:33:50+00:00

Translation: you’re treating me like a girlfriend too fast now I’m scared you either want to lock me down or I’m the only girl you could get

Solution:

Either slow the fuck down

Stop revealing things about yourself so fast

Or start showing your human side, be a bit late, forget her dogs name, tell her her shoes make her look like a dork, don’t answer her phone call… SOMETHING.

It’s creepy being with mr.perfect

EmperorSillyBilly · 2024-08-22T22:43:06+00:00

All of the above is great advice. Definitely try to teaw them more and be more direct with what you want. Always be outcome independant, don't care if she goes. This'll allow you to feel more comfortable saying wild things or doing wild things or not getting attached because you don't care if she leaves or goes

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2024-08-22T17:40:19+00:00

You just got to assume that when you see someone, they have a roster of others.

SO if you are making her your everything early on she might be creeped out a bit because in the early stages girls arent looking for their forever guy. They are testing to see if you could be that guy but are also bouncing between guys. Thats how dating works. If you are treating her like a queen from day 1, it may come off as if you want a GF ASAP where she might be in a place where she isnt even sure if she wants to be in committed relationship right now.

Maybe slow it down a bit. Dont invest too much in the girl and go on dates with other girls.

No_Hat9118 · 2024-08-22T17:41:19+00:00

Don’t flirt, tease. Teasing generates attraction from thin air + encourages them to chase u, flirting is generally cringe unless timed v well + still requires teasing anyway

zebekias · 2024-08-22T18:14:46+00:00

You have enough attraction to get them on dates, even have sex, but it fades. In womanese “you are nice and sympathetic, but…” = I’m no longer attracted to you.

Don’t take it personally, it’s strictly business. You can fix it.

Assuming your life is in good order, it could be the sex is bad (watch porn, read David Deangelo’s Sex Secrets). It could be you are too nice, watch Zan’s Way of the natural, don’t try to please them, enjoy them. Don’t try to be their friend, have sex, then do your thing. Your life does not revolve around them. It’s ok to be a little bit of a selfish dick :) the better you get you can dial this down, but occasionally they need to feel your presence and be put back in their place, when they are out of line.

rzerx · 2024-08-22T18:32:57+00:00

Never be the nice guy. That frame never works which is a turns off. You got to work up to being a bit more aggressive in your desire for women. Women want to feel like you're no pussy and can handle pressure.

The mindset is to not care about what the fuck she thinks, not just about you but about anything. If you care a bit too much about what she thinks your next move is, you're thinking way too much and way too ahead.

Just let go and be a free spirit not caring about what she thinks and not caring about whether she likes you or not. You're with her cuz you want to be there not cuz she wants u to be there.

Enjoy yourself in her company, not the other way around.

DaygameCode · 2024-08-22T21:39:25+00:00

Making things man to woman and not meaking out on the dates at the very least, means you have not made things man to woman. No kiss, no man to woman vibe. If there was man to woman and you don't go for kiss, it means you warmed up the food, but did not eat it, so the food cool down and now novody wants to eat it. Your problem is going on dates and being stagnated in talking and more talking never escalating to kissing and sex. It's almost like you forget that a date should have kisses and sexy time, not just conversation.

skulleater666 · 2024-08-22T23:45:36+00:00

If your looking for a commitment you also have to form a friend relationship and nove past the seduction stage. Your seduction never truly ends but youre gonna have to be real after awhile

st2468 · 2024-08-23T02:20:51+00:00

No1 gives af who u fucked bro. Are u looking for a wife or a fucktoy becoz any girl that fucks u the same night she meets u is not wife material. Sounds like ur handsome enough to pull women but ur looking in the wrong places and giving off the wrong signals. Those girls u did bang are not wife material.

Dandys3107 · 2024-08-23T10:46:19+00:00

Having good time together is mainly a friend vibe. For a boyfriend or a lover, you need to share some deeper connection, intimate moments or secrets and strong, extraordinary emotions. If there won’t appear anything like that, logical conclusion would be that you are not really a good match and your synergy doesn’t bring anything big to her life. Therefore, it’s probably better to keep looking somewhere else. And to be honest, probably better for you as well.

Westernleaning · 2024-08-22T20:58:04+00:00

You would have to tell us a bit more but it sounds like you're not coming off as both high-value and seductive. Just from the way you're phrasing this "We have had a lot of fun, and you are a really nice and sympathetic guy, but I don't feel the way I would like to feel at this point", you're supposed to have seduced a girl within a few dates. If it's taking longer you have an issue. Learn physical escalation, isolate, escalate, and make it clear you're here for something sexual, if not YOU should be the one nexting her.

Title	Am I being too nice?
Author	sup_erstar
Upvotes	15
Comments	21
Date	August 22, 2024 5:27 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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