Any advice increasing interactions when you work the typical 8-5?

justn6 · 2012-04-30T07:19:29+00:00

I feel your pain, my friend. I'm 23 and work salary 60 hours a week, 12 hours a day. I have to focus all my game on friday and saturday nights.

iznou · 2012-04-30T08:39:31+00:00

OKCupid.

xenzor · 2012-04-30T08:37:36+00:00

Ive been trying to talk to girls on the train going to work.. But damn i find it hard to even speak in a silent fish bowl with 30 people listening in... Apart from that just take a little extra time to talk to the girl at subway, While its generaly not a good idea to get involved at work .. I personally think its a good idea.. (pro tip: that girl at reception really did want your tip )

I_F-close_OKC · 2012-04-30T10:14:25+00:00

I'm with you dude. My job and location mean that I see literally 0 eligible females in my day-to-day life. That's why I got on OKcupid.

motherducker · 2012-04-30T14:25:17+00:00

Monday-Wednesday all dedicated to personal errands? Try to condense them if you can, then find a couple coffee houses, lounges, or parks where you can spend time regularly. You'll start to see who else spends time regularly there too. Get friendly with the staff, you'll start to get friendly with the other regulars and then you look cool every time you go up there.

WomenRPretty · 2012-04-30T14:44:38+00:00

Are there any skills you want to develop or hobbies you want to do? 8-5, be home by 17:30, have dinner consumed at 18:00.

You need 6 hours of sleep a night, so go to bed at 24:00 (00:00), means you have 6 hours of time to fill with activities that can hold plenty of social interaction.

Also, a big one here: I think Tyler (Owen) said something along the lines of this:

Go out every single night, even if it's just 20 minutes- do it.

This is a big one for me, every single night- stay in the rhythm, keep it a core part of your identity. You're tired? 45 minutes. You're sick? 20 minutes. Et cetera.

ProphetVA · 2012-04-30T17:50:24+00:00

Well props for getting out Thurs-Sat at least! You mentioned your lunch break? Is there a place you can go nearby to open some sets? Like a food court or a particularly busy coffee shop? Is there a busy coffee shop near your home or work that you can stop by in the morning to pop a set or two? What about your commute too and from work? Do you drive or take public transit? Can you take public transit easily? Depending on where you are you can usually get an extra set or two in each way.

Also, if you can't get out into the field during the Sun-Wed stretch like AFCAnon suggested, why not use those nights for Day-2s, or for going to the gym (and opening a set or two there), or just having some friends over to hang out (you can invite some girls to that too), for hobbies that also happen to involve women or groups? Remember, improving your game isn't ONLY mastering the cold approach, it's about building a lifestyle.

HolePunch66 · 2012-04-30T18:56:29+00:00

Hit the grocery store on your way home from work, it's like shooting fish in a barrel.

Trooper2442 · 2012-04-30T20:32:22+00:00

I'm glad you asked this, as I type this I'm sitting at work. The typical 9-5. I go out every weekend (Thursday-Saturday) but I'm usually out every night doing something. Like AFCAnon said, going out every night for even a little while is really helpful. I've met some really great people in the most random of places.

soflymcfly · 2012-05-01T04:26:38+00:00

There are ways around this, it just requires a lot of work. Work that may pay off because girls you may be interested in also work and live a similar lifestyle as you, the traditional long day. So, just think about when you have free time and think about your personality. What do you like to do: party on the weekends or do some thing a bit more quiet, perhaps a mix of both?

Let's just say its a mix of both. Here are somethings you could do to meet available women:

Go Out and get Breakfast in the morning, weekdays and weekends, lots of people like to get breakfast in the morning and sitting at a counter/diner eating breakfast is like a sober version of a bar, it opens you up to conversations. People there will vary from young to old and generally will be up for conversations about random stuff. Interact with the regulars at the place, heck you may even become a regular. Even if there are people there you like its a great way to work on your communication skills and catch up on the local gossip.
Now you'll likely be at work, caffeinated and full, it's a great way to start off your day. While at work, you can carry this positive energy over and work to punch out as much work as possible. Also, talk to everyone at work, just be friendly.
Then you can go run errands after you get out of work, grocery shopping, banking, any kind of shopping, or just walk around those areas. Lots of people like you are getting out of work around the same time and will likely need to pick stuff up. Just play some day game (except it's, technically, early night game). Buy some interesting foods, that always leads to some good conversations. You also could go order food from a restaurant that offers take-out, lots of people do that, especially single people (guys and girls) this will also open you up to a wide variety of people which is never a bad thing. Like always, converse, converse, converse with as many people with possible. *Dinner over? Hit up friends for drinks or a movie or an evening run, bike ride, or something. Just be out and around people. It's likely other eligible people like you will be around you all you have to do is find them. Just talk to people and be in areas where people exist.

Then you can rinse and repeat each following day. Plus if you meet someone like you during the week you can set something up for the weekend when you are both free. That way you both have something to look forward to throughout the week. Honestly, some of the coolest people you tend to meet when you least expect it.

Just remember, some days will be awesome, some days will suck, but the vast majority of days will be alright. You don't even need to spend money just be around people who are doing random things or things that interest you and talk to lots of people.

Anyway, to me this seems pretty disorganized, but I hope it helped. Good luck, if I think of anything else I may add more to this post.

EDIT:

Remember you pass by lots of people when running personal errands! Talk to them and perhaps reschedule your personal errands so they line up with when other people you may be interested in are also doing those errands, like I mentioned above.

clockwerkpurple · 2012-05-01T04:53:42+00:00

Guys, you'll be happy to know that I went out to a cocktail/networking event. Got to socialize, as opposed to paying bills and staying in, and I made two approaches.

It went alright.

Title	Any advice increasing interactions when you work the typical 8-5?
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Date	April 30, 2012 4:09 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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