Any good resources regarding "date game"?

CoachSlyDating · 2025-03-06T21:19:28+00:00

I will give you some quick tips:

you should plan multiple locations within walking proximity. ideally very close to your place or her place. if the vibe is dying in one location lead her to another. make it spontaneous. this gives the illusion of having known each other longer. the vibe should be increasing throughout the night.
i tell the girl she looks cute the moment i see her and give her a hug. physical touch barrier is broken immediately and i can escalate a little more. i like to focus on her jewelry, tats, etc. commenting on her hand size is also fun.
you need to lean into moments of tension. hold your eye contact longer with a little smirk that signifies that you know you can have her.
ideally have her visit your place for a brief second at the beginning of the date. pretend that you “forgot” something. this will make it easier to bring her back later.
don’t ask as many questions… but get her talk talk about herself “tell me”. it’s more dominant. feel free to do cold reads. screen her to see if she fits your standard.
don’t be afraid to inject a push-pull in the date “you’re cute but we’d never work out”

Opposite_Engine9807 · 2025-03-07T01:46:16+00:00

If you fix the root cause a lot of things will fall into place naturally.

Notice how you said “how to actually build attraction over the first couple of dates”. This is coming from the frame that she isn't attracted to you already, and that you somehow need to prove yourself to her.

Think of it this way: This girl took time out of her busy schedule to get dressed, do her makeup, commute, and chose to meet up with you among all the options she has if she's a half decent looking chick. She would not do that if she wasn't already attracted to you. Doesn't mean you can't fuck it up or increase that attraction, but you should assume attraction from the get-go and just treat her as if she was already your fuckbuddy.

What it seems like is you're struggling to escalate. And yes, once you have the correct mindset then all the tips can help, like bringing up sexual topics, touching, holding eye-contact etc. But they will only feel natural once you assume attraction and aren't afraid to take calculated risks.

The more afraid you are to fuck it up, the more likely you are to play it too safe and filter yourself too much. This is the scarcity paradox that fucks over 99% of guys. But remember, the biggest risk is to be platonic and not make any moves, then you're 100% guaranteed all attraction will slowly die out.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-03-06T21:25:09+00:00

For starters, don't "pretend" to do anything to manipulate and don't say "you're cute but we'd never work out." Drop the 2007 PUA bull.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-03-07T05:39:33+00:00

Just ask herd this forum is quite active and helpful

Substantial_Twist_47 · 2025-03-07T05:43:54+00:00

https://mindful-masculinity.org/2024/06/11/9-step-first-date-same-day-lay-guide-planning-texting-and-escalating/

plan the date so she heads back to yours - its a little guide i wrote back when i started daygame in London 5 years ago

epimpstyle · 2025-03-07T07:06:26+00:00

how to actually build attraction over the first couple of dates

Ironically, the attraction is already built the moment she is "hooked" (when you first talk to her after 3-5 minutes). When she goes on a date with you, the "attraction" phase is over, now you need to work on "comfort". Mystery explains these steps in his book "How to get beautiful women into bed". It is very complex, a lot of theories, but once you understand it, it is very simple. It is important not to pay attention to the trolls, competitors or haters of this method, because they will only confuse you more.

Dandys3107 · 2025-03-07T09:34:27+00:00

This sub, Youtube, articles/books of PUAs. You should take your knowledge from different sources, improvement is a marathon anyway. Take your time, learn and test different mindsets and methods, process the feedback and grind your technique. It's not about learning the perfect scheme, it's about becoming very good at seduction, so you can handle any unexpected situation by yourself.

Title	Any good resources regarding "date game"?
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