I will begin today with Accountability Partner STD_Tyler the free Approach Anxiety program from GoodLookingLosers. I have read it here on reddit and now will implement it myself. The program is meant to only focus now on overcoming approach anxiety, not on making something happen (that will come later).

I have procrastinated for a long time to just approach women, to get over the anxiety. But now is the time.

The program is meant to take small consistent steps to overcome the approach anxiety.

Today is first day of drills:

  • Walk up to 5 women and ask them for the time. LEAVE.

My Self-limiting beliefs (SLB) are: - the women will find it weird that i ask for the time - maybe i get ignored - she will think i am hitting on her - i will come off as a weirdo

I have to challenge the SLB to see if these are tue and make myself uncomfortable.

Wish me luck. When i have done the drills, i will give an update.

Update:

In the morning i went to an Calisthenic Park to train and there was one guy that i met yesterday. He was there with a women friend of him and they were doing kickbox training. I wanted to join them and was really afraid to just ask them. I went over, asked; can i join you with kickboxing. They said sure. We had fun, laughed, had a great talk for about 20-30 min. I always leave my phone in the car when i am training, so i just asked the girl for the time.

In afternoon, in Brussels (Belgium), but actually i live in The Netherlands. In Brusse what harder to do, because people speak mostly french and didn’t understand english.

Feeling anxious especially in busy streets in the centre. Feeling of people watching me. That i looked creepy or something. Social pressure thing.

The reactions were different, some were very positive, another ignored me:

First women: very nice reaction, friendly. 2nd women: was in a hurry, i just said Time? And showed my arm

3th women: ignored me, just said she didn’t know and looked little bit strange.

4th women: was standing, was a Chineze women and didn’t understand english. She did google translate and told me.

5th women: was on the phone walking, said in french she was on the phone and ignored me.

6th women: ignored me, walked by

7th women: i was in a clothing shop, here boyfriend was in fitting room, she was on her phone and i just asked.

8th women: didn’t know the time and just walk by

So today were 9 women and a few other men that i asked.

If the women were on her own in a less busy street, it was more comfortable.

I felt sometimes really anxious, anxious level 7-8 and eventually had the feeling i need to do more. I also got a little bit adrenaline, the rush that i haven taken the small steps and even continued when i felt really comfortable. Being with an AP helps and also that people here on reddit follow my progress.