Approaching in germany

komaschwabe · 2020-09-23T16:08:38+00:00

Bro German fella over here, agree 100%

trajan_lol · 2020-09-26T12:24:06+00:00

Stop approaching German women. I only approach foreign (looking) women in Germany. It is easier to talk to them and sleep with them.

cyrusol · 2020-09-23T17:22:36+00:00

She's right that it's weird because almost nobody does it here. But that doesn't mean it cannot work.

In Germany you have to go to places where people typically relax/wait/to have fun. The public park, the ruin where all people go to smoke weed, pedestrian area near cafés, the bus stop, the lido, the boulder hall, the playground, places like that.

You also have to be a bit more persistent. Most times people are approached by someone else is if that someone else want to advertise or sell something or maybe by a homeless beggar. You probably don't look like a beggar so the salesman vibe remains. We Germans kind of internalized the "no, thanks, leave me alone" reaction to that. So it's kind of important to break this barrier by ignoring that first no and clear up your intent: "I don't want to sell anything, I just find you attractive and want to get to know you.". If there's a decisive "no" to that statement - which happens often but not always - then leave them alone. People just are not accustomed to someone being so bold that he actually approaches people in public for flirting purposes.

And you'll also be looked at as if you just did something forbidden or shunned, especially by elder people. But let's be real, they don't matter. And the girls you do approach will categorize you as a typical player/fuckboi. It's very unlikely you could convince anyone otherwise so just own it. Later on when you're actually dating someone you can clear things up.

Germany's probably biggest PUA made a ton of videos that are valuable to watch: Don Jon.

DavidCameronEtonLad · 2020-09-23T21:05:28+00:00

1000% facts. A lot of the advice here is based on US settings which is fair enough considering that most of the people on this sub would be from the US. But stuff like cold approaching in the UK isnt really a thing especially in London and other cities. Set and setting is different and so a club/bar or even a shisha spot or cafe you may cold apporach but that depends on the atmosphere. Also advice such as "dont text women unless its for setting up a date" is for an older crowd (maybe 25+?) becuase from my experience as a 21 year old the social media game is just as important, posting stuff on your stories or just being generally active something this sub doesnt really get

kjpowers · 2020-09-23T21:47:19+00:00

One of the things that still angers me to this day is that, when I firist got into this years ago and was looking for tips etc, everyone would tell me that it's the same everywhere. 'Game is universal' etc etc.

I'd have saved so much time if people didn't talk out of their asses lol. I was forced to find out for myself

I now know (having travelled to many countries and appraoched many girls) that basically 'game' as it's taught and most of the rules are basically US specific. A random example is how Rsd woudl advise walking up too a girl and introducing yourself ('hi, i'm Julien!') That would just make you look socially odd here and put your off too a very bad start lol. That's 1 of thousands of examples

If someone explains how they got a brutal rejection from a young UK girl in a southern town (they're more friendly up north in general) they (typically american posters here) assume that you done something completely wrong and that it was your 'game' etc (as they'd never get that sort of reaction from an American gril) and just give bad advice

the rules changed based on the culture, location, your age, her age, how good looking you are and a million other things. Everyone must be their own dating coach.

ALso, most importantly, I think it's important to remember that a lot of this is marketing and there are limitations.

If you open a girl and you aren't her type, no amount of pushpull or negs or whatever you think of as game is gonna help. I think more and more people in the community realise this nowadays. Current dating culture with insta and tinder and catfish experiments etc etc has 'red pilled' many people lol

AlenSplico · 2020-09-23T16:07:22+00:00

I live in Croatia in town where live 180 000 people. I also dont like to party so I approach a girl if I happen to come across one during my normal day to day activites. I dont go out in streets just to approach girls haha. But yeah most of the time girls tell me how they almost never get approached in person and that I came across as a brave guy. I tried going to clubs but there is simply to loud where you cant talk normally but unfortunately most girls go there and expect to be approached there.

Title	Approaching in germany
Author	emryz
Upvotes	11
Comments	19
Date	September 23, 2020 3:14 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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