Bar specific tips?

Clare1414 · 2021-04-04T19:43:47+00:00

As for tips, just watch for eye contact. I also wouldn’t offer a drink straight away. If a man does this with me I worry he’s just trying to get me drunk.. whereas if you chat for a while and wait until you’re due another drink then it’s just a nice gesture.

Clare1414 · 2021-04-04T19:42:31+00:00

I’d say do approach women at bars if there’s eye contact/genuine interest. My single friend and I always say how it would be great to meet more people out and about, but it just doesn’t seem to happen like that anymore (obviously more difficult with covid but even previous to that!)

ilikegoodtimez · 2021-04-04T20:37:02+00:00

Say hi to every girl you find attractive, handle rejections like a real man by shrugging it off 🙂

Ziondizl · 2021-04-05T10:03:40+00:00

Dude, this comes down to a whole heap of things, how you are dressed, how you position yourself, how confident you are, if you can hold her attention.

Stop giving a fuck about the potential for rejection, stop caring what other guys she might be seeing, stop caring what other people think, you are a man, go and fucking talk to the woman man, are you a hunter or a gatherer?

CenaSmackDown · 2021-04-05T00:00:41+00:00

Eye contact is the biggest clue, but you'll probably have to approach girls that aren't drooling over you. Some of them will be in good spirits and others will wish you never walked up to.

Ashido_Komaki · 2021-04-05T11:57:34+00:00

Life is RNG anything can happen, watch out for eye contact, and walk up to some girls you would like to convo with see where it goes. If you get rejected no problem keep moving n don't give up.

JHighMusic · 2021-04-05T04:34:36+00:00

You straight up just need to approach women at bars you are interested in, regardless of eye contact. Some will be receptive. Others might be totally cold. You will have situations where the girl seems totally disinterested but will sleep with you. Others where they seem totally interested but you won’t end up sleeping with them. Doesn’t matter. You seem a little too attached to the outcome or the idea of getting rejected. You need to be totally comfortable with failing because in this world you will fail more often than succeed. Of course it’s worth approaching, every time because you’ll learn things from every single approach. You miss all the shots you don’t take.

As for more bar specific, like others have said, eye contact is the best indicator. Bars can be tricky because there’s always the possibility that they think you might drug their drinks because they’ve had bad past experiences. I can tell you that is a valid concern for every single girl at a bar. Do not just offer to buy them drinks just to talk to them either, then they will just see you as a hungry guy who is only good for buying them drinks... not a good look or place to be in.

My best tip and it’s a long game, is if you want a bartender, is make friends with the hot bartender. Just friends. Then go there regularly, get to know them. Then show up with a different girl with you a few different times and let them see you with the girl and chat them up, introduce your girl. This builds immense value in their eyes. Then one night go in there and try and pull hot bartender at last call. It has worked, not every time but it can happen.

CrystalKay8 · 2021-04-06T20:18:06+00:00

My worst nightmare. I was at a club and saw this very unusual man who had red melted wax from a candle all over his face and torso. He looked wicked gross. Guess who brings this mangy dude home - my roommate! He told her that he really wanted to hook up with me, and that I had been flirting with him all night. I must’ve been staring at his super shitty attempt at how to apply eye liner. Just because a girl looks into your eyes doesn’t mean she maybe likes you.

Daunt02 · 2021-04-04T22:31:00+00:00

I do soft approaches a lot of times since most dudes go for the, "this is it" type approaches head on or the incredibly creepy whisper behind her back thing.

I usually just do a side what's up while doing whatever I was going to do anyway. Usually when getting a drink or walking to another place of the bar. Then if it strikes position my body closer. If a woman gives me indicators of interest I smile then approach stronger. I'd say stop targeting women at bars, that's what all dudes do, but just have fun and talk to them as an accessory to your awesome night. Going out with the mind set of talking to women ends up screwing up the fun you would have had and outs you in your head.

If you're vibing in a good state this goes out the window. Do whatever you want.

A thing that helped me earlier was to talk to all women whether I think they're attractive or not. There's a bunch of 4-7 beautiful individuals out there.

True_Music48 · 2021-04-05T06:57:30+00:00

Approach hot women who look like they are fun and interesting. Ask them what shows they like or what music they like then say I like that too. Then ask for their number. This has worked for me every time I do it. If they like you or you’re hot they’ll always give you their number.

SexyNuggetz · 2021-04-04T18:53:45+00:00

Not worth it. Most girls there are trash

_Rynzler_ · 2021-04-04T19:34:02+00:00

Dont approach women at bars. Thats my tip.

Title	Bar specific tips?
Author	vasili111
Upvotes	10
Comments	33
Date	April 4, 2021 6:02 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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