Be careful with being vulnerable on reddit. Some redditors may or will use it against you.

grrinchas · 2019-12-29T12:24:43+00:00

If you want to improve socially, being creepy is part of the game, at least in the beginning. It’s unavoidable.

But I see different problem here, which is: “You care what people think about you too much.”

If you care what people think then you seek positive things such as validation and approval. But at the same time you avoid negative such as criticism. This makes you very vulnerable to manipulation and you become potential victim for bullying.

I mean, just one word from some random stranger, had such a big effect on you. It changed your mood, your behaviour, consequently this will have negative impact on your health, love life, maybe even financial well-being.

I strongly suggest you to sort this out.

Be a creep and don’t give a fuck about it.

Ice666White · 2019-12-29T17:04:59+00:00

That guy is a dumb potato.

You're here to learn. Unfortunately this subreddit has a lot of weird people and people giving the wrong advice, and people who are just hating on others.

I learned to ignore abuse after 10 years of receiving it. Don't let it bring you down. I know it can be hard, but you can be better than these guys. And what kind of person spends their time bringing others down?

Losers.

Kingmir1 · 2019-12-29T17:42:21+00:00

I remember a couple months ago I was on the NBA 2k sub basically talking to people about the game, socializing, agreeing and disagreeing.

Well one guy I had a pretty small disagreement with decided to go through my profile, and basically make comments on everything that even seemed relatively vulnerable. So my response to him was to fuck off because nobody asked him for advice, and we’re talking about a damn basketball video game. If I wanted any mental help from anywhere. A 2k sub would be one of the last places I’d dare to ask.

I find that people who do that are weird, and best to ignore them. Also you gotta stop caring about what others think of you. It’s a crippling feeling I know.

addy16a2 · 2019-12-29T18:00:00+00:00

Normally, I avoid the negative stuff when I'm doing something of importance. You should avoid it too, it clouds our judgement, and makes us seem or respond in a way that we normally aren't.

GeeseCTM · 2019-12-29T18:07:36+00:00

You have to understand, there are a lot of great guys here. However, there are a large handful of guys, who are here, and they're filled with toxic ideas and toxic energy. it's called crabs in a bucket mentality and they just want to drag you down. I get this a lot too. And I know what I'm talkin about as far as the dating game goes, but if I post something, there's a good possibility that I'm going to get jammed by downvotes and slammed with hate mail by that core group of frustrated and angry individuals.

But FUCK THEM. Be willing to fail!

“Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.”

-Thomas J. Watson

If you’re not willing to fail, you guarantee you’ll stay average-at-best.

If you want to grow into an extraordinary version of yourself, you must be willing to fail — a lot.

Failure brings humility. It develops your character. It helps you laugh at your mistakes and not take things so seriously. Like a plant placed from the shade into sunlight, your growth rate will accelerate 10x.

I'm bringing this up because, don't change you and don't change the way You are trying to improve and succeed, because of the handful of crabs in a bucket. The people who want to drag you down to their level. keep moving forward, keep challenging yourself to succeed, and most of all, look at it that when you get those people in your life who want to take you being vulnerable and genuine with your experience, and they want to take a dump on it -- look at those people as the angry, jealous, envious people, who wish they had what you had.

In other words, look at it as a sign that you are having success!

Go get it!

SuperSpartanGamer · 2019-12-31T06:43:42+00:00

Dude stop making posts about me. I called you creepy because you were asking to fuck a girl you literally just said Merry Christmas to. This is what, your fourth post? Over me calling you creepy. Get over it. I didn’t use shit against you, literally just said I thought you were being weird.

SuperSpartanGamer · 2019-12-31T06:46:53+00:00

Check your other posts. Other people agree your being creepy. It’s not seductive, it’s strange. Don’t downvote need until you look at OP’s other posts. He also dmed saying the date failed because of me calling his behavior creepy, and not his own actions. Buddy, you creeped her out. Not my fault for calling it how it is.

Title	Be careful with being vulnerable on reddit. Some redditors may or will use it against you.
Author	saus33
Upvotes	12
Comments	14
Date	December 29, 2019 11:29 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/eh4yyl/be_careful_with_being_vulnerable_on_reddit_some/
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