This question kind of popped up in my head when I read that awesome post from yesterday (http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lmak3/not_giving_a_fuck_the_story_of_a_young_mans/) When you're at a point in your life where you're comfortable with talking to people, can make friends, can grab numbers, and can be a fun person as you are what's the verdict? Do you 'be yourself' or do you actively keep mental notes and 'try hard'? There is a necessity for some people to tell themselves mentally to do things, but people forget that attracting the opposite sex is a very natural, and most of all SIMPLE process. There is no dance, there is no real strategy, it's all a fluid singular movement. For a little background, I'm what I would call a 90% confident dude (as in I'm confident in most situations and am working on it still). I can talk to anyone, am fine tuning being fluid with hotter girls, and generally love my life. I'm happy, but I'm not getting the success I want. I can attract girls but I just can't follow through. I think this directly ties into the question. I just don't know what path to go. I'm left with indecision on whether to do "x, y, z" at certain times or just let it go and chill out. It makes me indecisive and I know I need to be more action oriented and push harder, but then I feel like maybe I'm not letting things happen as they should. Of course you can always prompt yourself to work on little things like kino'ing more etc, but for people above the threshold of newbie and aiming for the satisfaction of being a natural is the only clear answer to just be yourself?