Being Alpha and getting to hang around other alphas in a social gaming context

revente · 2017-01-22T23:16:01+00:00

First forget about the greek alphabet.

Then bring value to their lives. Host fun events, be first one in the male group that approaches female groups. Have a rich life and awesome stories to tell.

Big_TX · 2017-01-23T00:04:00+00:00

Just go propose something. And organize meeting up with them latter. It sounds like you are meeting new groups of people. When you have a groop of friends you hang with and you meet a cool new person, You don't really think to invite them out next time. Once you actually hang it with someone it changes the dynamics of the relationship.

Don't consern yourself with this Alpha stuff too much. In an ok broad Guideline. But you can't apply that model to every situation. Humans are more complex than wolves.

barriss · 2017-01-23T11:55:25+00:00

The best way to bond with someone is to be vulnerable with them and then be supportive as they show some vulnerability in return. I tackle this in a variety of ways:

1) I get comfortable being vulnerable first. There are topics I won't be vulnerable about right away, and that's fine. I have some topics that I am comfortable being vulnerable about. If they're supportive in their response to my vulnerability, then I feel friendly towards them. I like them more, I trust them more.

2) And this goes both ways. When you are vulnerable with someone and they are supportive and then are vulnerable with you in return, it builds a healthy relationship. Be supportive of their vulnerability.

This can be as simple as:

[Conversation turns to grandparents]

Me: "Oh yeah, I found it really hard when I was young and one of my grandparents died, it was like X."

Other person: "Wow. That sucks. It must have been a really tough time for you." (<- supportive.) "I had a similarly tough time when Y passed away, it was like Z." (<- returning vulnerability)

Me: "Wow. You're right, that's exactly how it felt. That must have been really tough for you! How did you deal with it?" (<- supportive and showing interest).

The distant death of a grandparent might be something you're comfortable being vulnerable about in public and so it's a low-risk conversation for you. If they aren't supportive, it won't hurt you. But if they are supportive, that's a sign that this person might be a good friend.

(Also: out of curiosity, where are you getting all this alpha/mate lingo?)

Title	Being Alpha and getting to hang around other alphas in a social gaming context
Author	redditalien9
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	January 22, 2017 10:46 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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