Being the adorable guy...

euph0r1a · 2013-02-02T22:28:58+00:00

Should I look to hit the gym and pack on the muscle giving the impression that I'm not a skinny wimp?

Yes, but because it's a healthier, more enjoyable way to live, not because girls like it.

nuferasgurd · 2013-02-02T18:27:54+00:00

Read up on making a sexual frame.

july25 · 2013-02-02T23:01:21+00:00

How old are you OP. At any point in the interaction are they aware that you are a man with a penis? Fix this

ysef95 · 2013-02-02T22:09:37+00:00

This is quite a vague problem so i dunno how I could give you game advice because you havent detailed an interaction so theres not much to go on. I'd definitely advise you to hit the gym though itll make you feel way better and when you build properly it can help you to feel competitive and aggressive. Take up boxing or a similar combat sport this will further your ambitious and competitive drive which will help you set a more alpha and dominating frame.

I have to say that I had exactly the same problem with girls telling me I was "too funny to be hot" In field I would say dont drop too many IOIs use a lot of push/pull when k closing and escalating its cool to make a girl laugh and I do that a lot but I dont just sit and give her free jokes and entertainment all night I go around meet loads of people then mabye if shes lucky Ill come back and "grace her with my presence".

Finally the most important thing I can tell you is to escalate kino properly do it quickly and be entirely explicit in your intentions there are a few good youtube video series in particular How to kino

Good luck!!

shitsfuckedupalot · 2013-02-03T05:18:08+00:00

Game change! Make a big fuckin move that shocks everyone. Take what you want. It's not in apperences, its in perceptions. Perceptions are shaped by actions, and manifested through appearences.

KingofFerretPowers · 2013-02-02T18:28:08+00:00

I deal with this alot too (still a virgin unfortunately but also due to being oblivious, not wanting a gf, etc). Physical stature isnt a huge deal honestly. Im not super tall or muscular either. Just have some confidence, maybe say something witty to the "adorable" part too.

Girl - You're adorable and cute, BreesorFoster
You - What am I, your teddy bear ?

Cajun is pretty clever when it comes to this stuff too.

St4rBr1ght · 2013-02-03T01:45:03+00:00

I've been called cute almost exclusively(I'm 6' 4"). To counter this, I've grown some some sick sideburns that make me look/feel very mischievous. It has helped me channel my bad-boy/egotistical vibe(Affirmations when I look in the mirror). I can't say it has helped my results with women, but it has done wonders with my confidence. See yourself in a new light and just maybe the world will too.

2013-02-03T08:35:15+00:00

Dude shorter guys can put on weight a lot easier than tall guys! You have to eat far less to look just as build. I'd say you have an advantage on that front. Go for it- work out and put on that muscle! Yes, it will help with girls, but also, you'll feel a million times better about yourself.

And similar to what other people are saying here: Flirt, flirt, flirt. Make it evident you're a MAN.

AfroHoe · 2013-02-03T01:58:36+00:00

Maybe your attracted to the wrong women. I am an attractive woman and I had a crush on a guy like this. He was so nice to me but he was interested in girls who were stuck up. And more into them selves. But as soon as he realized I am cool and pretty I was already gone and on to the next guy. :/ some girls probably like you.

ZenAdm1n · 2013-02-03T08:52:29+00:00

/r/gainit

Edit: Tired last night so I kept it short. I'm a smaller guy. I've had major insecurities about it throughout my life. Working out even moderately helps immensely. Skip the sugar and junk food. Join /r/gainit for tips on building muscle, a lot of the stuff on /r/fitness is geared toward weight loss. Taking better care of yourself will not only improve your looks most of all it will help your self image. Find an individual sport or hobby. I was in a team sports mindset for a long time and it's hard to complete with men that are athletically "superior." Now I run, yoga, and poi. Set personal goals and crush them. Other guys have posted about sexual framing so I won't reiterate it.

Really_Cheap · 2013-02-02T18:09:47+00:00

Have sex with them.

Title	Being the adorable guy...
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Date	February 2, 2013 5:57 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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