Can't take action on dates.

PyouA · 2012-05-28T03:14:19+00:00

The friendly card plays man, just be you and keep pushing forward.

If you are being friendly and having a great time together and chatting up - invite her back. You shouldn't be thinking that you need to act a certain way to get physical. If the date goes great and you just say, "this has been fun so far, you should come back for a few drinks." I bet that'd work more than you would think.

I mean, is it better to get lots of kino going and to build tension and to progress in a certain way - definitely, but if you focus on all that shit now you are wasting your time.

Once you get a few girls back and realize that they all are very reluctant to go into your bedroom, then you will have a fixable problem to deal with. Maybe you aren't building enough trust or turning her on enough...

But right now you aren't even giving yourself a chance. You are just saying, "well I'm not perfect so I need the girl to do it for me." That's bullshit. Stop getting in your own way.

2012-05-28T01:55:25+00:00

Make sure to over-think everything.. even your own actions. Don't mind the girl. Carry a towel......

Jspiral · 2012-05-28T03:00:47+00:00

I don't understand what the problem was. Can you elaborate?

VMikeL · 2012-05-28T03:39:16+00:00

Like the other comments I'm not sure what you're asking or what the problem is exactly... I'm guessing you feel that you can't create the moments in order to k-close them? This is pretty simple, you need to bring up the idea of expectationd and kissing while on the date. Then to actually make a move, you need to set a mood, tone things down, and go in for the kiss.

rmbarnes · 2012-05-28T12:07:29+00:00

It's not a case of you can't take action, it's that you won't take action. Important distinction.

4FF41R · 2012-05-29T20:15:43+00:00

You'll never find the moment. You need to create the moment. Don't despair, that's what this community is for, brush up on the basics, keep on going out there, talk talk talk, escalate escalate escalate. It's like learning to ride a bike, you're going to get bruised, but once you learn how to ride the bike.... ;-)

Title	Can't take action on dates.
Author	Kiloku
Upvotes	14
Comments	13
Date	May 28, 2012 1:38 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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