I'm at a point where I can get girls interested in me, I know 50% of people where I usually go out and so it's gotten easy to be myself, enjoy myself, and approach strangers.

HOWEVER. It seems that as much as I'm improving my charisma, my sexual attractiveness stays at 0.

Last weekend I went out with a girl after she had kissed me (while drunk) at the usual place I go to. She wanted to leave (go party elsewhere), I agreed, we went together. She ended up spending the night with me, but nothing happened.

The morning after, she decided to stay at my place, we spent the day in bed, smoking weed and watching funny stuff, listening to music,...

I touched her frequently, she didn't object, but I kept it limited to her legs, back, arms,...

At one point the convo turned sexual, she started telling me about her nipple piercing, I told her I'd love to see it, she asked for confirmation to which I obviously replied yes, and so she popped out her breast. I got closer, touched her nipple, told her it was pretty, that was that (afterwards I realized I should've escalated by saying something like "I'm gonna need to see the other one to compare..." but I failed to do so...). The convo turned even more sexual when I asked her about other piercings and she told me she used to have a clit piercing but had it removed because she kept orgasming with it on and it had just gotten too much...

By the end of the evening she told me she'd better be heading home, to which I offered to drive her. We spent like another half hour together, I didn't escalate, and so she started dressing (was in her top and thong all night/day). When she started putting on her bra I got up to her and playfully pulled her towards me so she was laying down again, but at that point she (in a friendly playful manner ftr) got back up and said "no! I really have to get home now...", so I let her continue getting dressed.

While seated in front of me, putting on her bra underneath her shirt, she started telling me she thought her boobs were too big, how she thought of getting them reduced,... So I grabbed one, telling her they're great the way they are, she didn't object, push me away, whatever,... Just continued dressing.

I felt like an idiot afterwards for having waited allllll day to only make a move in the last damn 30 minutes. Problem was, she HAD to get home before her mom, which was in an hour or so...

But a part of me was also wondering if, perhaps, whatever happened between us, wasn't because she allowed it because she wants me to escalate, but because she sees me as a great friend, kinda like that gay best friend? They get to see (and touch) boobs all the time I reckon, but I don't want to be that guy...

Reason I'm so worried is because the last time I slept with a girl, she approached me, we got to kissing and eventually slept with eachother two weekends, after which she told me she didn't want it anymore because it was all going too fast, but now, she's with her previous fuckbuddy again, and it's literally eroding my confidence.

What did I do wrong? It's not that she doesn't want a sexual relationship, it's that she clearly doesn't want it with... ME :/

I'm afraid this pattern will keep repeating itself and I'm already getting sick of it, the number of girls I get to advance with is really low (though I come from zero) and when I do find someone with whom I have some chemistry, I want to escalate properly!!!

I was raised in a very prude manner when it comes to sexuality and so I'm pretty sure the problem is rooted there, in my fear to be sexual, and my fear to be rejected when I do try because I think of it as inappropriate, and am scared to fail (get shot down) in public...

I'm reading Mark Manson at the moment but havn't gotten to the sexuality part yet, do you think it will help with my issue?

Any other recommended reading?

THANK YOU!!

TL;DR: Girl showed me her tit, let me touch it too, didn't escalate, what am I to her? How do I become sexually attractive on top of "charismatically" attractive? (I know I have some charisma, did a lot of work on my self and I get compliments frequently, from guys too because I attract hot girls, BUT I CAN'T ESCALATE so it's useless to me...)