Cheap or low cost dates?

dandin2 · 2013-10-30T14:36:53+00:00

Unless you're 100% confident you're going to get results do not buy food or drinks for any woman. That's not how it works. Remember, girls only gain attraction on an emotional level, not on a logical level. Buying them food or drinks will not get them to think you're a nice guy (which would be bad anyways), or to think you are more attractive in any way.

You must go dutch if anything. If a girl likes you she'll be willing to pay. If she really likes you she'll pay for you. With this in mind, take her to low-cost, low-risk places like coffee or frozen yogurt.

IceCream_Social · 2013-10-30T14:47:15+00:00

Go hiking or bike riding! As long as the girl you're taking out is remotely athletic she should enjoy it, plus it's way more interesting than getting coffee, and not every guy is going to ask her to take a hike.

2013-10-30T14:52:07+00:00

Coffee, walking in the park, even stuff like bowling etc isn't that expensive. Honestly I'd only take an actual girlfriend to dinner, and at a bar the girl can get her own drinks after the first round..

donit · 2013-10-30T14:52:40+00:00

Another problem of guys paying for everything is that money corrupts the situation, so sometimes it's hard to tell if the girl is going out with you for the validation of having money spent on her, or if she just enjoys getting free stuff.

The only way to fix that is to remove money from the equation by splitting the bills. Some people trade off, but I think trading off sucks because whoever pays gets their evening ruined by getting hit with a big bill. By splitting, everything always only costs half as much.

Here are three versions I've been working on the wording of:

Want to go out with me on Saturday night and buy dinner together?

I want to take you out this Saturday night and buy dinner together.

We should get together this Saturday night and buy dinner together.

SemanticsLogistics · 2013-10-30T15:10:38+00:00

Personally, I like to go out to bars and stuff so I just mention I'm going and invite the girl out. I may buy her a drink or two but I don't feel the need to pay for all her drinks. It is important to note that it's framed as "I'm going to this bar if you want to join" rather than "let me take you to this bar with me." In the first situation she is coming of her own choice and it sets the expectation that she is meeting you, whereas the second situation implies that you will be treating her and paying for her (dangerously close to putting her on a pedestal if you ask me).

If you insist on doing things where you're providing everything for her, a quick search found this list: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ijg5m/31_fantastic_cheap_dates_rfrugal_crosspost/

pizzas1ut · 2013-10-30T17:50:47+00:00

Don't do movies on first dates. That's a red flag. not only do you guys probably have very different taste (so one person might have to pretend to like the movie). It's expensive and since you're sitting in a theater for 2 hours in silence (unless you're THOSE assholes who talk during the movie), you are basically paying just for someone's presence because you will not be able to get to know eachother while in the theater! Unless physically, lolol.. that is a plus.

ElCidVargas · 2013-10-31T00:27:18+00:00

You go out 4 times a week? Damn that is a lot.

But as other people have said here I wouldn't recommend buying food or drinks until you've reached a certain point in your relationship.

That being said I occasionally take out girls for dinner, but only on Tuesdays when it's half priced lol.

frownybear · 2013-10-30T19:01:38+00:00

My favorite cheap date is a picnic. Usually I would schedule them on a Saturday afternoon and buy supplies that morning. Buy some sliced bread, some ham or prosciutto (you can ask for a few slices at most deli counters for cheap), some slices of cheese, some arugula, maybe a few cherry tomatoes, some cheap 9-10$ bottle of wine, a few cupcakes as dessert if you want to go the extra mile. That should cost you less than 25$ and you can reuse most of the ingridients to make yourself lunch or to go on another picnic date. I just freeze the stuff until my next picnic date. Bring a blanket to sit on. Bouncing to your place after a picnic where you get to know each other and get a few makeouts in should be pretty straight forward.

keptit2real · 2013-10-31T00:15:20+00:00

What I do is take them out on something I know is free. One place I take dates to is a free pool night. With paying I always see if I can make a deal with'em (make it fun) I'll pay for the drinks if you can beat me at pool. I don't lose often. Whatever it may be make it 50/50.

I changed my stay up from yours cause I once paid 100 dollars on a chick and got no love from the chick. This told me I need to change my game up on dates. I will only pay for a dinner on a day 2 that's it.

L1AM · 2013-10-31T01:40:24+00:00

Other guys have offered solutions on paying. I'd like to present an alternative.

One thing that'll rack up the cost of dating is solely or primarily doing dinner dates. One thing that'll cost very little is some sort of day date. Although it has different connotations than a 1-off nighttime date, it can be great in getting to know someone. Go to the park and walk around! Where I am, there are piers at the beach — go there and walk around, grab a churro or a coffee or something! Go on a ferris wheel and steal a kiss! Grab ice cream and do something.

These will simply not even put you in a place where you might pay for everything, or, if you do, it certainly won't be expensive. Good luck with your dates!

Mr-E-Relevont · 2013-11-01T02:31:17+00:00

porridge for breakfast. the morning after.

Title	Cheap or low cost dates?
Author	PlayFair
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Date	October 30, 2013 2:24 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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