I need 2 points of clarification on this concept,

Firstly, when you "push", are you actually trying to seem uninterested? Or do you maintain the flirty cheeky vibe to show that you're teasing her?

Second, how big are these pushes meant to be?

Examples:

Chatting intensely and you pull her in really close, like you're about to kiss, and then cheekily sit backwards but keeping a similar expression with a smile and looking off to the side a bit

VS, chatting intensely and you pull her in really close, like you're about to kiss, and then you sit back again and look away and seem bored, uninterested