Closing on Tinder?

johnny_77 · 2015-05-06T01:14:23+00:00

I've had good luck with tinder, but it's definitely a numbers game. It used to piss me off, but a lot of the girls flake or just stop talking with you, just keep at it.

As far as getting a hookup only vibe across, unless they mention it I steer away from that conversation. If asked point blank I'll say something like: "I'm not looking for a serious relationship, but I actually want to hang out with people, not just bang them." I find even if women are just looking to hookup, any mention of that will activate their slut defenses and turn them away. Also, if someone's adamant about wanting a relationship I don't lie to them about what I'm looking for because I don't believe that's right.

mmoilanen94 · 2015-05-06T02:42:33+00:00

Just reaffirming the other comment here, it really is just a numbers game. You can match and get numbers with multiple girls off tinder, make interesting conversation, even set up a date idea but it all depends on if they are actually willing to follow through or not. They can be comfortable with talking through an app but possibly uncomfortable with meeting a stranger which is something that should be attempted to be overcome through messaging them.

I find a lot of matches are open to conversing but once escalation is apparent with the intention of meeting up they sort of retract. I'm not any big advice guru or anything but I would just say don't get discouraged, keep active on tinder with swiping, messaging etc and eventually you'll match with a girl who won't flake.

trp-throw · 2015-05-06T05:14:27+00:00

My goal on tinder is not to# close but instead get the number when i feel the attraction is there, I get the number and finish the convo by text instead of tinder.

7Tomus · 2015-05-06T13:20:06+00:00

IMHO, tinder and other forms of online dating are the last places where a decent man should look. You see, young attractive woman dont really need to go to such sites because they are approached constantly. So majority of girls what you get on such places are either fat / ugly or with difficult personality (not all ofc). Another factor is that for 1 woman there are at least 10 dudes. So remember when you get matched next time... that girl got at least 10 times more matches, so you are not that unique to her as she is for you. Woman are overwhelmed on tinder just look at this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2pvJuLgBqk . I reccomend you to stop being lazy and looking for the easiest way to find someone. Put some effort into it and use real world instead. Go to salsa class or smt, much better material there to work with and much better outcome.

redditisawesomeinla · 2015-05-06T16:34:39+00:00

I meet up with Tinder chicks all the time. Most initiate the meeting as well - but if they don't, personally, I now almost exclusively recommend we go for a hike or a beach boardwalk walk together.

If a chick seems like a catfish or is hesitant I'll tell her to call me when she's free to meet up. It's a good way to end the time investment with her and put the ball in her court.

Byizo · 2015-05-07T13:39:31+00:00

If you're looking for hookup-only put it in your description. As an opener use something like,"Why haven't we had sex yet?" It's wierd I know, but you would be surprised how well it works. That way you don't waste time with girls who will not want what you want.

For me Tinder is always a plan B. If I get a bite, great. If not it makes no difference. Real life approach is usually worth the extra time to get to the close. You can get much better looking women much easier in real life because they are not swamped with dicks, and even if they are, browsing this sub should give you enough to stand out. On Tinder unless you are 6'something and in the upper quarter in the looks department you aren't going to get a ton of right swipes. This is because women get so much attention on there that they feel like they can raise their standards higher than where most of us are.

Edit: The most important thing is to not let Tinder take time from real approach. I only use it when I cannot go out due to time constraints, work, etc.

Title	Closing on Tinder?
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Upvotes	19
Comments	14
Date	May 5, 2015 11:58 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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