Coffee dates or not?

my_seddit_throwaway · 2011-01-05T20:27:37+00:00

Coffee in the evening. If it doesn't go well you can bail. If it goes well you can consider going to get drinks.

I started doing the online thing and lining up dates that way. I found it's harder to f-close girls form the internet , don't ask me way. But usually I met with them for coffee first , always.

okcspecialist · 2011-01-05T19:04:56+00:00

I like coffee dates if they last at least half an hour. There is minimal kino opportunity and that is their major downfall. I usually agree to them so long as what we're going to do on our first date is the subject on the agenda.

IANAPUA_Yet · 2011-01-05T19:05:52+00:00

Great question, of course, but you're one of the most experienced guys here, so I'm sure you already know the correct answer is to try both approaches and then decide which approach results in a happier DW.

cheddarchexmix · 2011-01-05T20:19:27+00:00

In my experience, women respond much better sexually after the sun is down. I generally avoid day first dates, they just seem more sterile and less fun than going out for an evening drink. Coffee date at night is probably OK, but I find bars much more conducive to kino and general fun than a coffee shop.

afcanonymous · 2011-01-05T21:20:57+00:00

Get coffee and take a walk. You won't run out of things to talk about given the amount of stimulation around you. Get to know your city well, and take her to a place where you can watch the sun set, or a river, or someplace calming. You can kino, put your arm around her, hold hands, whatever, and escalate. If it's going well, suggest going back to your place and chill. Escalate immediately.

cheddarchexmix · 2011-01-05T21:08:22+00:00

Is the "multiple mini-dates" approach your go-to for a first date? I need to try this.

2011-01-05T22:02:49+00:00

I would just meet for drinks.

dec92010 · 2011-01-06T01:39:21+00:00

I like the coffee dates and agree with your thinking. I think they are good for getting to know the person and are inexpensive. From my experience females see these as neutral meetings, so they generally accept. These "dates" can be short or long. If it works out and you learn you have a lot in common, future dates can be set. Good luck.

lutadorordie · 2011-01-05T18:48:29+00:00

According to Joel Spolsky, taking a date for coffee instead of drinks is a good strategy because coffee is an stimulant and alcohol a depressant so they'll have a better memory of you if they form it while drinking coffee.

Title	Coffee dates or not?
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Date	January 5, 2011 6:00 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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