Confidence with bad teeth?

noisycicada · 2014-06-25T14:46:36+00:00

If you are stuck with bad teeth and can't change it, my best advice is to stop focusing on it. Sure, it is a flaw and nice teeth are attractive but if you can't change it don't obsess over it.

Shift you outlook from negative to positive. Make a joke about it if you are self conscious and quickly move on.

Do you really think guys with bad teeth can't get laid/ a girlfriend? If that was true entire populations of people would become extinct.

mattatr0n · 2014-06-25T17:36:13+00:00

Get more than a good job, car, and personality.

What skills do you have? Can you cook? Do you go to the gym? Can you paint? What parts of your identity ARE attractive.

I really hate when guys expect that, because they have the bare minimum, they should be getting girls left and right. You can have no job, no car, and a shit personality…but play one great set on stage at your local dive bar and you're set.

Cultivate an identity that is true to the best you can be. Shitty teeth isn't a game breaker, but not having a way to demonstrate value is. Think of it this way, what would make another person want to be around you? If you don't have an answer to that question stop trying to work on your seduction skills and go out to get some real skills (maybe you will actually meet a girl on the way). Seduction is just a pretty wrapper, if there isn't anything under it you just won't have any luck.

I play guitar, cook gourmet meals, am well read, go to the gym, train my dog, dance and write. Do I have a nice job? yes. Do I have a car? yes. Do I have personality? yes. Does anyone else want to go to a bar with me and talk about those things? no.

InfiniteBlink · 2014-06-25T18:51:13+00:00

Short of getting them cosmetically fixed, do this. Practice in a mirror two smiles. One is a playful smirk, with a slight upturn of your lip on whatever side is natural. The eyes are key to smiling. Next. Practice a medium smile. Find whatever you are comfortable with.

The reason to practice is for muscle memory. Once you can instantly get on point it will be natural.

Get your teeth fixed then do the Cheshire cat over the top exuberance.

I had broken my front teeth in HS and hated smiling cuz I had bad crowns, I got them fixed when I was in my mid 20s. Had to learn how to smile. It's super important for women. No one wants to be with grumpy face

joshsway · 2014-06-25T18:20:19+00:00

Well, you were married once so you did manage to get girls. So that should be comforting even though it didn't work out in the end.

Mabans · 2014-06-25T19:09:33+00:00

Have your other abilities stand out. IE: like a blind man who looses his ability to hear but his other senses get heightened. Be funnier, smarter, more charming than the rest. You have to try harder but that's more of a state of mind, it's not a wall. You are going to get them fixed so it's not like you're stuck with them, it's something your heading towards so don't let it affect you. I understnad if it would be something you can't change but this is something that is fixable and you are on the path to doing so. Empower yourself as if it's something to wait for.

yummyluckycharms · 2014-06-25T22:20:02+00:00

There are invisible braces, get those stat.

Next learn to flaunt your wealth and status through alternative means. Their hamsters wont care about your invisible braces at that point.

zapmouse · 2014-06-25T23:22:00+00:00

Depends on how bad your teeth are. Are we talking spaced out or crooked or yellow/rotted? I'm assuming crooked/spaced out since you mentioned braces and, alas, i'm on the same boat. (http://puu.sh/9KaVZ/da6d30c96a.png)

I can't tell if yours are like mine, but this is what i can offer which made having messed up teeth much better.

A: accept it. practice smiling in the mirror, closed and opened mouth. Figure out what smile looks best on you.

B: Act like you can work it. Trust me- faking self confidence is brilliant. I went from never smiling at all to smiling all the damn time and not giving a fuck. I literally call the gap in my teeth "The Canyon of Mara" and have invited people to explore the depths. Some how it works.

C: Invisible braces. It sucks, will be a pain in the fucking ass, it will hurt and you'll have to wear a retainer for the rest of your life but eventually it'll work. It just might take a while. (I'm not fixing my smile, I've learned to love it.)

Also, brush your teeth when you wake up and when you go to sleep. It helps, it helps a lot. Realizing that i couldn't change my teeth but i CAN make them white and make my breath smell amazing has helped me a lot, too.

(joking has also helped) (make a lot of jokes)

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-06-25T14:40:41+00:00

I'm an asshole and a ton of other things people dislike, that doesn't mean I can't be confident. you need to disconnect certain aspects of yourself ( especially those you can't change ) from your self esteem. you don't feel bad about yourself for not being a bodybuilder or a millionaire, do you ? life's a bitch, and it deals plenty of bad hands but you have to play them anyway. don't beat yourself up, other people will always do it for you. like anyone who thinks they should give you shit. fuck that. if you start listening to bad things people say about you, you're teetering on the edge of being beyond help. you are the only one who gets to influence your self esteem, so build that shit up.

more concrete advice: want to get rid of your issue on speed-mode ? make it your weapon and the focal point of your offense. go up to girls and let the first thing you say be " hey, help me out for a sec; someone told me I have ugly teeth, do you think it's true ?"( and then onto "do you think it's important for a man to have nice teeth?" ). not only will this allow you to hear from a shitton of non-crappy girls that it's not that important, but you'll also find it much easier to deal with your problem until it's not even a problem anymore and you won't be wondering if they noticed your teeth the whole time. think you have the balls to do it ? if that inner voice just responded "no" or you've been thinking "I can't do that" while reading this then that is the incorrect answer.

2014-06-26T18:00:01+00:00

Thanks guys/gals. Sorry if that is too ramble-y

You don't need to apologize. It was barely a paragraph. Don't worry about it. This is probably a bigger problem than your teeth.

Title	Confidence with bad teeth?
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Date	June 25, 2014 2:19 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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