Could i please hear out your tips on opening?

joniii123 · 2017-01-07T19:54:18+00:00

Hey dude! It is totally ok to feel uncomfortable when talking with strangers at first.

When I need/want to talk to somebody I don't know, I just remember that I won't likely meet this person in my life ever again. And even if I do, I don't have anything to loose. And if you meet a person that you can hang around with, it does not matter that much how you exactly behave. Just try to be yourself, and if he/she seems uninterested, don't worry about them because you're probably better off moving on.

Also an Abundance Mindset really helps. There are many cool people, so you don't have to befriend everybody that you meet.

blue_dover · 2017-01-07T22:06:41+00:00

The best open is to skip the open and go directly into the interaction. Assume familiarity

ktcyfa · 2017-01-08T02:27:19+00:00

Dude the best opening is - Hi :) Simple as. The more you think about pickup lines and conversations that you're going to have, the more nervous you'll be and probably come across as unconfident and scripted. Just say hi and go from there. Maybe comment on the situation or place that you're in.

Also if you're approaching someone random, you've got to learn to just not give a fuck. If it doesn't work out, so what, you're never going to see them again and they'll forget about you in 5 minutes. So what's the big deal?

lonewolf-chicago · 2017-01-08T03:27:23+00:00

There are so many different ways to open. I agree with the previous poster that said just open with "Hi"

Smile say "hi and say my name is (your name) I saw you standing over here and wanted to introduce myself what's your name"

When I was in the army one of the coolest guys in our platoon introduced himself by saying, " hey I've seen you around for the last couple months you seem pretty cool we should hang out." It was not a pick-up line obviously it was just a simple introduction.

I picked up a chick at a bar and dated her for a few months One Time by simply walking up to her and her friend and saying "I'll bet you guys $10...what do you guys think? That person in the red shirt is that a man or a woman?" They looked at the very odd looking person and they both started to laugh and then I validated them by saying how awesome you guys have a sense of humor.... the rest is history.

The truth is every line will work on somebody and there are some people doesn't matter what you say it won't work but you never know until you try it

The Only hard-and-fast Rule that I have is if somebody was looking at you never make it look like you did a formal approach like you see in some movies where the guy walks up says something received feedback and then turns around and walks back to his buddies. I've heard this said by pickup artist before and it is absolutely true everyone in your environment is watching and if you get rejected you'll have immediate lower value to all the other women in the area. If it's a bar you're basically done.

This is an approach Style that is absolutely doomed to fail most times.

joniii123 · 2017-01-07T19:55:55+00:00

Why do you exactly think that you are giving too many fucks when opening to a stranger, if I may ask? :)

Have a nice day too!

rsdmax · 2017-01-07T20:27:19+00:00

just do it! ;)

policebaton · 2017-01-08T03:53:40+00:00

Go out there and allow yourself to totally bomb

Overnight_Delivery · 2017-01-08T06:01:55+00:00

normally I get a sense of about 1 to 3 things I naturally want to talk about in the vicinity or about her etc. Once I've got 2-3 good things with a response then I'm golden. if only 1 then oh well going in. if not then any stupid spark will do.

Actually some of my best openers had nothing to do with the vicinity. the one I just started telling a story about how my building's door person started talking to me about christmas trees and then he asked me if I had one yet and I said no. Then he said "well don't get a real one it's not allowed". Then I told her, well then don't talk to me about christmas trees because I'm going to get a live one whether you want me to or not!

sidthejar99 · 2017-01-08T07:38:42+00:00

Theres a paralysing fear when you try to approach someone you find attractive. Even the most experienced PUA's have confessed so, but the point is that its not necessarily a bad feeling or one of those instincts that tell you something bad may happen (if you know how to read your emotions correctly). its actually healthy and normal to feel the jitters before you cold approach someone you find attractive. You just have to get over it and make the approach.
Firstly start with a simple 'hi'. If you want to get comfortable then ask for something general, like any directions or make a comment about something around you. Then you could complement her on her dress, or anything like that. Instead of saying that she looks lovely, you could simply say 'i noticed you and wanted to say a hi'. Once she gets "approach friendly", then you have the court and take it forward however you like - the important thing here is that you gotta take it forward the way you want it to, that brings out the uniqueness and confidence any attractive girl would want to be approached by.
Hope that helped, because being a beginner I've gotta walk the talk

asiasocialite · 2017-01-08T16:43:16+00:00

Benji,

I used to be so scared of opening. I took a bootcamp and actually quit after the first day. I was so nervous! I didnt know what to do. I hated approaching girls. I was scared they would hate me or I would upset them.

However there are a couple of mindsets I have taken in and they have made a world of difference for me.

1) Girls are bored. Most people in this world are bored out of their fuckn minds. They have no idea what they want and they have no idea where they are going. Most of all they just want someone around to make them laugh. Make sure you are bringing positive energy and have fun with the open. make them laugh. This is very important! Help fight the boredom by being fun. 2) Girls love to brag to their friends. If you walk up to a girl and she says she is not interested or says she is busy,, you will feel rejected and down. But she will go up to her friends and be like "Oh my God this guy just approached me and told me that was really cute". She loves this and her friends feel jealous because no one came up to them. 3) If you are not getting the results you hoped for then you just got to open more. If there is a huge flaw in your Game you are going to realize it. A girl might even tell you that you talk too fast or you don't seem sincere. Who knows what it is.. but you'll figure it out.

And definitely spend time with your friend that is crushing it. Try to get into his head space.

Keep going. You are going to get this.

Shawn Cameron

www.asiasocialite.com

Title	Could i please hear out your tips on opening?
Author	benjibenjichasin
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Date	January 7, 2017 7:22 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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