Craigslist Personals??

RedErin · 2010-08-26T20:08:00+00:00

If you find someone cool to shag on CL, then by all means go for it.

BUT...

Do not use CL as a crutch to help get over your AA. You're gonna have to put in the hard work. Trust me it's worth it.

And good job on talking to more people. (slaps you on the ass.)

ArMcK · 2010-08-26T20:55:00+00:00

Hi.

Done the Craigslist thing.

Literally more than 99% of the time it's a complete waste of time. I'll admit I've used it as a crutch when my AA was too overwhelming and I still say it's not worth a damn. I've gotten two lays out of it that were significant. I'll admit I fucked a few fat and ugly girls through it also. All but one of the girls I met through CL were through posts I put up.

NO MORE!!! Except for that one, and she was ugly too, every ad I've responded to has been for a bot that redirects you to a paid dating site or has been for a hooker. I'm not paying for sex.

Think about it.

Q: Do girls pursue sex?

A: Only if they're desperate of if they want something from you.

Any girl that you are going to be attracted to is very unlikely to be surfing the internet for some cock. She's going to be social and sexy, so she'll be with friends and readily have sex at hand.

The two that I count as good lays through CL were flukes. It was late at night, they were bored, and I just happened to have a writing style that demonstrated reality, turned them on, made them comfortable, turned them on some more, entertained them, and turned them on some more.

Then I had to email and IM them for 3 days to convince them I'm not a serial killer.

Honestly, it's been much more rewarding to conquer my fears and talk to real women face to face where I can build attraction up close and personal. I still haven't gotten my first SNL, but it's so close I can smell it!!! And I know that once I get decent at that, then I'll be an unstoppable pulling machine and I won't need to waste 3 days pulling a girl from the internet.

So

GET OUT THERE!!! Get Neil Strauss' Rules of the Game. It's pretty good for getting you over AA up until a point. Then it comes down to how bad you want it. Do you want it bad enough? Do you want to make the core changes to your personality so bad that you'd do anything just to feel like a man? All you gotta do is stop being a pussy and become the *Pussy Whisperer*!!!

ThrowawayPUA · 2010-08-26T20:31:14+00:00

If you're having AA on a bunch of pixels on a screen, you should probably deal with your AA generally first. There has been plenty of advice dispensed on eliminating AA, but nothing eliminates it like just doing a lot of approaches on random real people. Consider the first hundred or two as practice.

VampireSlayer · 2010-08-27T01:25:43+00:00

I don't think this is going to help with your AA simply because it's connected to you meeting someone and building a real life connection first. Rather then feeling the safety of the net and using it as an excuse to be able to talk to a random stranger. I don't see this fundamentally helping you with your main probelm.

rmbarnes · 2010-08-27T17:32:59+00:00

If you are going to go the online route, use a decent dating site like OKCupid, not craigs list personals.

If you do do this, make sure it's just to temporarily get around sexual frustration, not as a solution to your social anxiety problems.

sneakatdatavibe · 2010-08-30T00:01:43+00:00

I've met two really amazing people from Craigslist, one of whom was a super-hot punk-rock cartoonist. The other is my girlfriend of two years.

It's a crapshoot, but occasionally it pans out. As others have said, though - it's no substitute for getting over your anxiety issues.

Title	Craigslist Personals??
Author	Sed_noob
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	August 26, 2010 7:59 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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