I have been living in Rio for a while now and doing a fair amount of dates and cold approaches. What I sometimes notice, in myself and in friends, is this weird moment after the interaction where you're like:

“I could have done this blah blah”
“Should I have escalated sooner?”
“Did I miss a sign?”

I’m curious, how do you guys reflect on your cold approaches and dates to improve your game?

Do you think most of your failed dates or cold approaches are due to external factors, tone, low confidence, or not reading signals well?