Dated a girl, then got triggered, stopped contact, now she misses me

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-04-08T03:03:10+00:00

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Top-Spread5042 · 2025-04-07T08:51:45+00:00

Bruh, just one word for you “run”. Run as far as you can away from her. You can get sex anywhere else. High chance she ain’t texting you cause she loves you and misses you particularly, she misses the attention she used to get from you easily. She ain’t normal bro what you have right here is the classic case of a pick me girl. Chances are you ain’t the only guy she likes getting attention from but she can’t have one of her “resources” lost from her, she feeds off that. You caught feelings, it’s gonna get harder to leave the longer you stay, you already ripped that band-aid off, keep it off. Don’t think with the head in your pants but the one on your neck. You’re wasting your time with a pick me when you could be happier with a girl who can show you the love you’re meant for and want. This girl is a disease and you have to get it fully rid of you. I’ve had the same problem with my previous ex, absolutely avoidant during the relationship, left her twice only showed me love when I’d leave. Now I got an amazing woman who gives me the love I didn’t know I could have nor deserve and the ex is still bugging me every few weeks to break up, with offers of sex and promises to change but we both know how that’ll turn out after a few weeks or months and I would have lost the amazing woman I have now and you would lose the peace of mind and freedom to get a better woman for yourself if you and me went back to that crazy wench. Stay strong, keep the shit in the toilet bowl, and just flush it down with a smile buddy. Trust me the sex ain’t worth it, she ain’t the only person in the world with a pussy. You’re better off jerking off and keeping yourself sane from her. Gd luck bud

bigbootynopussy · 2025-04-07T05:28:12+00:00

Is finding someone else not an option?

tyrwlive · 2025-04-07T07:57:10+00:00

The truth is, deep down you wanna keep her around because the sex is good, I get that.

But you also have feelings, which can only increase if you continue to have sex with her.

My advice? Let her go. I’ve been with avoidants and they are mentally fucking exhausting; it will only cause unnecessary pain.

But if the sex is great, nobody can tell you what to do otherwise.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-04-07T05:52:19+00:00

Tell her you'd be open to meeting her again for casual fun but that's all you can offer

MichaelScofield68 · 2025-04-07T09:22:12+00:00

Unless you're a sociopath it's very hard to have sex with someone you dislike because you will need to spend some time building or rebuilding an emotional connection with her before sex (unless she comes straight to your place but that's a risky move).

That is the curse of having standards and not being needy anymore, you realize a lot of hot girls are so fucked up in their minds or have such terrible personalities that you can't stay around them long enough even if the sex is good.

Wanting her in particular is actually needy in a way btw. You should meet more girls to find some that are hot and that you do not actually hate.

Anyways if you want her you either need to be ok with the fact she's annoying and will not change and put up with it but again unless you have psychopathic traits you can't do it.

Ot tell her why you don't want to see her and cross your fingers for her to actually realize it and tone down her repelling behavior.

But unless you're 3 leagues above her she won't change behavior. And even then, you shouldn't engage with girls 3 league below you.

Best option is to meet new and better girls. Hope that helps.

FKaria · 2025-04-07T10:53:13+00:00

Tell her to come over. No dates.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-04-07T16:21:22+00:00

lol sounds like fun. So toxic but probs so hard not to get invested. Sex does sound like it would be amazing.

It’s a huge game that she reacts really well too clearly. You already know what to do

ympostor · 2025-04-07T06:26:13+00:00

send her a picture of a cafe whose location both of you know, then she knows where to find you; after she comes, just have a drink with her and then call a taxi to go to your place; don't share much more than a good lay, call her an uber when you finish, saying you should do some work or gotta get up early next morning

Title	Dated a girl, then got triggered, stopped contact, now she misses me
Author	Most-Philosopher6562
Upvotes	66
Comments	16
Date	April 7, 2025 5:21 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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