Dealing with flakes am I the problem?

newrisingsun70 · 2022-01-02T15:03:31+00:00

I don't think the problem is that you're boring or whatever. Did you ever meet up with these girls? Might be the case that you texting them for too long and they loose interest. Try to meet up rather sooner than late. I think at least some of those girls waited for you asking them out, but when you didn't do it, they lost interest, because they thought it might be going nowhere.

oceanstwelve · 2022-01-02T15:10:31+00:00

i think you have answered yourself mostly in your post. your looks arent primary. but since you have worked on them . they are definitely a bonus. but if you cant seem to get past a particular "stage" . you definitely are boring (thats not you , thats the current you).

to change that, invest in yourself. be the guy a girl would forget her life and important things about. its easier than it sounds.

in 1 line it can be simple as HAVING A LIFE. something you would be obssessively doing and aiming for if no girls existed for you in this planet.

youtube this. unlimited channels all over the place to help you.

Sup3rHD · 2022-01-02T17:45:33+00:00

You dont have to text girls...
In the first 3 messages, ask her out,
After the "date", wait for her to reach out or ask her out after 5 6 days.
During this time dont text them, women today get bored very easly.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-02T18:31:18+00:00

If I ask you to post your messages here I am pretty sure I will get blocks and blocks of text that goes on for days with the end result being that you bore the girl to tears.

bcool_returns · 2022-01-02T23:45:09+00:00

The only thing I can think of is that I'm coming across boring and my energy is off.

Who knows. We only have your self-reporting. People need to start posting chats on here if they actually want targeted advice. Off the bat, I find it notable there's no mention about actually asking these girls out. Just conversation and then alleged ghosting. Text is a tool at the end of the day. So my guess it has to do with that and/or the manner in which you're going about the date pitch.

Moikepdx · 2022-01-03T03:08:48+00:00

Just a guess, but it sounds like you are not spiking her emotions. She is initially attracted and excited about the idea she has in her mind regarding who you are. Then you interact logically and she feels like she’s dating a good-looking robot.

It’s also possible that you simply talk about your interests without listening to hers, which makes her feel lonely and unappreciated when she’s with you.

Have conversations that make her feel highs and lows. Make her feel laughter and desire. That tends to require being emotionally open with her, and asking questions about what she likes and wants.

Title	Dealing with flakes am I the problem?
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Upvotes	6
Comments	13
Date	January 2, 2022 2:55 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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