Dealing with the shit test revolving around only wanting to hook up with her?

norwegiandoggo · 2022-02-15T11:04:36+00:00

Don't play.

If a woman gives me a shit test, I go one of a few roads:

Ignore
Mock
Wrong answer on purpose

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-02-15T11:20:44+00:00

She: “You only use me for sex”

You: “You must be really great, if I keep coming back”

——

She: “You only use me for sex”

You: “And you only use me for my penis, we men have got feelings as well you know”

——

If she is girlfriend material

She: “You only want me for sex”

You: “I was gonna say the same thing to you, why don’t you ever talk with me about feeling? I need love and connection too”.

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-02-15T16:17:05+00:00

" I'm open to whatever things become. I don't try to fit anybody in a box"

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-02-15T23:18:02+00:00

Wow I'm not that easy

Silver-Variation8903 · 2022-02-15T10:46:08+00:00

Can you elaborate? What exactly is the shit test?

norwegiandoggo · 2022-02-15T11:52:31+00:00

She wants longer term commitment. That's why she's concerned that you just want to hook up with her and then not be there for her after. Think about it from an evolutionary perspective. Women in the far past didn't want to get pregnant with a dude who isn't going to provide any resources for the baby. The baby will likely die and she will be in a pickle. Her desires for a guy who wants to provide commitment is due to evolution and these preferences cannot be logically over-ridden fully. Even though we have contraceptives today that pretty much guarantee that pregnancy won't happen.

Based on your post I am assuming that you don't want to give her long-term commitment? If so, your options are simple:

A) Lie, and mislead her by pretending you want commitment

B) Tell her you don't want to provide commitment and see if she's okay with that.

C) Find someone else who is more open to casual sex and more compatible in terms of what you're looking for. There are large differences in preferences for something casual from woman to woman.

I tried to break it down to the most simple way to look at this. The actual words or methods you use in each case is less important.

I think you need to stop seeing this as a "shit test" and see it as a biologically driven preference for men who show a willingness to provide for a potential baby long-term. Women often place a large value on commitment from men. It's not a test. It's a mating-strategy preference. But there are considerable differences in the strength of this preference from woman to woman.

Title	Dealing with the shit test revolving around only wanting to hook up with her?
Author	150420throwaway
Upvotes	3
Comments	18
Date	February 15, 2022 10:44 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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