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Siwandco · 2022-10-03T16:31:18+00:00

Men generally expect women to bring up the relationship status chat so go for it! And if you feel the need ask why still on dating apps. If you can’t ask open and honest questions and expect open and honest answers then it might not be headed longer term. Just my 2 cents

MyName_isLame · 2022-10-03T16:48:54+00:00

You need to ask him directly. It’s possible that he just wants to be with you and not put a label. Also possible that he enjoys your company and having you as a friend and lover but he doesn’t want to settle he wants to keep his options open. Maybe he hates how stifling monogamy is. There’s no way to get a solid answer without asking the man directly.

wikthis · 2022-10-03T17:12:54+00:00

From my perspective there's a good chance he has some self doubt and probably has been burned pretty badly in past relationships. Definitely ask him about his past if you haven't already and see if he tells you about anything he's been through. It can be really hard to believe in yourself if you've been belittled and shut down time and time again in the past. But that's more my story and not his. I would definitely be bold here and say you want a labeled real relationship, and that you really really like him

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-10-03T17:21:42+00:00

Communicate more. Forget about labels and generalities. Talk about specific feelings, behaviors, and expectations. Probably multiple conversations of significant depth.

When you have a good feel for how he sees things, then decide whether you want what he's offering.

Cookies993 · 2022-10-03T18:06:53+00:00

Is it okay for you if he sees other people? If so, then just keep it like it is, or maybe ask if he wants an open relationship

If it bothers you that he sees other people, tell him and see if he values you more than random hookups.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-10-03T20:54:21+00:00

This guy seems confused and afraid of the label of committment. You need to have an honest conversation about how you feel, what you want and ask him what he wants.

If he can't give you straight answers and be clear on where you guys stand by the end of it, it's time to 'break up'. He's clearly is too immature. This has run it's course and will get messy. You've done pretty much everything couples will do besides move in together at this point. He's not a baby, he's a grown man, he should be able to tell you.

Baro1nine · 2022-10-03T21:11:46+00:00

I think he likes the girlfriend experience but still wants to see what else is out there/thinks he can do better.

sinhaanip · 2022-10-03T17:30:43+00:00

Even I didn’t get your stand clearly from the post !

rtjohnson · 2022-10-03T19:17:49+00:00

You need to express to him that you'd like an exclusive relationship, because it sounds like you haven't yet and his dating app behavior is eating away at you.

I know if FEELS like a relationship but you have to have the courage to express exactly what you want (an exclusive, monogamous relationship, by the sounds of it) and let the chips fall where they may. Having that conversation will be a win-win, you either become official or you get to see his explanation for not wanting a relationship, which will tell you a lot about him (both good and bad things).

He clearly likes you though with how emotionally invested he is, so I wouldn't worry about scaring him off with this conversation -- y'all have been seeing each other every day and he's introduced you to his family, it's time to become official.

learnbyrepetition · 2022-10-04T06:30:43+00:00

This sounds more like something you need to talk with him rather than in a reddit post

Foolforthought080 · 2022-10-04T12:54:58+00:00

All of these responses are great and very helpful. Yes it’s very important to be forthcoming about how i you is feel about each other. It also equally imperative to not get weighed down by “labels” if it feels right go with it. And let the beauty of an organic union flourish. We men are often in our heads trying to quantify what often can’t be or what is beyond our understanding. He cares enough to spend all those moments and create all those memories, then embrace each other in the silence of surety and just love each other. Not Eros love but agape . I wish you both the best and hope this helps your journey

g3wb3r · 2022-10-04T14:54:40+00:00

Stop being obsessed with a label and what other people think .. stop caring about what hes doing ... be more confident in yourself and go with the flow .. enjoy things as they are

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