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[–]leagtg 31 points32 points33 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Thank for the inspiration! I will love to read story of you walking to a girl without the need of an event!
[–]Expensive_Temptation 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You def don't have to wait for an "event." Women ❤️ confidence in a man.
🔥 women have to put up with constant ogling and the occasional loser who's so nervous and tongue-tied he makes no sense when he does get up the nerve to approach. A confident smooth approach absolutely will not work every time. Nothing will because women are all unique, but it's a lot better and more likely to succeed than what we get most of the time!
[–]leagtg 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I appreciate your comment! Thanks ❣️
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I agree with this right here. I got lucky in that something occurred for me to speak up that conversation. But I have approached other girls without an “event” and have done well (obviously it’s hit or miss).
Being confident, sober, and unfazed really separates you from the pack.
[–]MasterBenObi 10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey man, I appreciate you sharing this!
Enjoyable and Inspiring read.
I’m choosing to take this as a confidence booster in the “If he can do it, I can do it too” type of way.
Also reading this has placed more awareness in my mind of being ready for natural, situational openers such as the receipt or dog barking.
I’ve been putting off starting approaching for a while, to be honest. I do talk to strangers often when out but usually don’t continue the conversation very long.
You’ve inspired me to take more action! 🤙🏻
[–]vegeta1418 15 points16 points17 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What would you have done if the receipt didn’t magically fly to you
[–]ThenTranslator2780 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Waiting for this to answer
[–]RideTheRim 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For real. OP seized the opportunities at the right time but these aren’t cold approaches.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great question. I did plan on asking her about the new city foundry that opened next to our grocery store, as we were walking out. As for the second girl, I’m not sure because she had her headphones in, so I may not have done anything except for smile and say hi and see how she reacts.
I understand this is not “true” cold approach but you have to be prepared for things to come up and get into conversation. I did want to talk to these girls but I didn’t plan for these “events” to unfold so I had to pivot and make it work.
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Nice
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You must be good looking then I don’t know why I get rejected cold approaching
[–]OpenHeight6562 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
after you open you ask girls their name and what they do for work etc?
I read here that you should never do that and that you need to ask them much more exciting stuff etc (and it got a LOT of upvotes). People were saying in one guys FR 'you got rejected becase you went into boring mode after the open. Never ask her what she does for work or what her hobbies are etc'
I wonder if in truth there are actually zero rules when it comes to game?
Maybe rejection just means you aren't her type?
[–]GeezRick 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You got the right answer. If she’s not attracted to you, nothing you say will get her to sleep with you. Literally just don’t be too needy or creepy and you’ll always get the women that want you back.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she’s attracted/interested in you, you can’t say anything wrong. If she’s not attracted/interested in you, you can’t say anything right.
That being said, you still have to take the chance. I had no idea how these girls would react, but I had to try anyways. They both were very attractive and could easily have been super mean but they weren’t, so it’s always worth trying.
[–]Ambitious-Penguin- 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Really a wholesome post
[–]Perfect_War5446 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well OP remember. Women are only ok with when guys they are attracted to approach them, so she was always attracted before even said anything. If she wasn’t into you, you probably would’ve come off as a “creep”. Good job being confident, but I believe that waiting for choosing signals is still more effective
[–]StubbornBr1t 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Brother I go to a nerdy cafe every week and can talk to almost anyone in there as they are all super friendly. Some new arty girls show up and I just asked what they were drawing and what they were doing was legitimately great! Asked about it then went about playing games with friends, low and behold one of the staff told me they had been asking for me when I wasn't there.
As you have said, just be a genuine gentleman and people will respect that!
[–]wannbetheverybest 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Do u escalate sexually with these chicks
[–]iwrecktheta 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This stuff would be considered really creepy if the girls didn’t find you attractive...
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[–]Archyblackcat 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
If you can’t get rid of the mentality that only chads can get these girls then why are you in this sub? Nothing you read will help you out … this sub is gonna work only for those that are willing to adjust their mentality and are willing to do what it takes to increase their attractiveness…. The truth is, you don’t deserve that cute girl not because you’re not a Chad looking guy , but because you’re not putting in the work required to get one .. ive had opportunities with girls I never thought I could just because I grew some balls and straight up talked to them .. it just takes balls.. girls put in the work to be attractive for guys to hit on them, why do you expect to succeed without Putting in work?
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[–]Archyblackcat 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
That’s why I said, what are you doing to improve your looks ? Have bad teeth? Save up , get a part time to pay for your treatment, same if you’re balding .. make the gym and eating right your priorities, don’t have a cool style ? Let go of your pride and change it to resemble the style that girls like on guys, you aren’t tall? Try to go for good looking girls shorter than you … I used to be so proud of my style until I realized most girls weren’t into it , when I changed it girls showed a lot more interest, same with my hair cut …. This will get your looks close to an 8 and you’ll be able to pull cute girls.. also don’t be afraid of what people will think of you, their opinion really doesn’t matter .. all this will help you improve your character as well and it will show when you interact with girls.. don’t be afraid to flirt with them.. even Chad looking guys struggle to get laid if they have a weak personality.. some guys could be Chad looking but they have a bad hair cut and dressing style.. sometimes all it takes is to adjust these
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[–]Archyblackcat 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Then go for ugly girls .. I’ve seen ugly ass dudes with cute girls cause they have a dominant personality, got ripped at the gym and learned to listen to girls and how to charm them through trial and error, if girls see other guys respect you then that’s a step closer to conquering them.. excuses are like assholes, we all have one and they’re all full of shit ..
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[–]Archyblackcat 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Then idk what you’re doing on this sub if you’re not contributing positively lol you could always get a sugar baby.. my hot ass ex stripper GF stopped seeing me cause she became exclusive with her 50 year old , fat , bald sugar daddy who provides everything for her , she was only 22 .. .. she said since she started fucking only him it gets to a point that she gets turned on during sex cause that’s her only sex partner at the moment
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[–]Archyblackcat 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Help on social skills ? Lol bro you haven’t said anything constructive.. as long as you keep Chad in your mind you won’t be of any help here
[–]Goulronk 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
But what if ugly women don't find you attractive looking either?
What can be done in this scenario?
[–]Archyblackcat 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
They have to settle for whatever they can get just like you are gonna have to settle as well
[–]Goulronk 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I mean I'm not good looking myself so I don't really judge people based on looks.
If I ever had a woman consider me attractive the last thing I would be doing is judging her on her looks.
If you don’t want a girl to want you only for your money then yeah you’re gonna have to settle for whatever girl you can get since she’ll like you for you.. but don’t lose hope, I’ve seen ugly dudes with hot girls… and the hot girls I’ve met that had ugly dudes said they were friends first for a while and they realized the ugly dude understood them , listened to them and had other better qualities than her “good looking” options so they went for the ugly dude instead.. if you’re ugly then you better beat the other guys in terms of qualities, become friends with hot girls without expecting nothing.. that’s as close as you can get to landing a hot Gf.. you can’t be ugly with a lame personality and expect to get a hot girl..
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
girls put in the work to be attractive for guys to hit on them
I thought they "did it for themselves" according to them?
[–]Archyblackcat 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lies… they do it to pull the guy that they want… and to boost their self esteem by making other girls envious of them.. but whose gonna admit that? No one
but whose gonna admit that? No one
That part I agree on, women do lie about these things a lot
Even if you fix everything fixable that doesn't require leg lengthening or plastic surgery, it still may not be enough
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I really don’t like this type of mindset that seems to be rampant on Reddit.
For the majority of my life I was an awkward lanky guy with weak game, style, body, confidence, everything (except my height as I have been 6’2” since high school). So I understand I have a height advantage but that didn’t mean shit when shorter guys did (and still do) pull way more than I could.
So in college I started working out, got my teeth fixed, got into a big social circle, dressing better, and actually tried talking to people and what do you know, it has helped me significantly do better with women.
Yes, women tell me I’m handsome, but it sucks to have all your success be reduced to that, as if I didn’t have to put in hours at the gym, talking to girls, getting rejected, feeling lonely etc. Lots of girls tell me I’m really attractive and then ghost me. I see guys who are shorter and less attractive than me have cute gfs.
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