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MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-08-26T13:21:33+00:00

DO NOT get her flowers. That is way over the top too early. She’ll get spooked.

You are overthinking this way too much and are going to shoot yourself in the foot by putting too much pressure on this.

Be casual, flirt, use subtle touch (light hug, brushing of arms), and focus on having fun. Fun is your primary objective.

appolonysian · 2022-08-26T13:42:07+00:00

…don’t get her flowers. Come on, that’s a dating move from 1900. You were (hopefully) treating eachother as equals before this date. Why should that now change and you be the one to do shit for her now? (Not to say you shouldn’t get your partner gifts; just never on a first date).

Something worth asking yourself here is: have you always wanted to date her and just didn’t have the guts to spring the question til now?

If that’s the case, don’t worry about “ruining the friendship.” Don’t hand hold/initiate physical contact in public though. It can come across as you seeking for reassurance she likes you and you already being more invested in the relationship than she is (no bueno).

Go out, have fun, make some innuendos, playfully clown around and stuff and then invite her back to your place at the end of the vibe is right. Good luck, dude.

surfershane25 · 2022-08-26T12:27:59+00:00

Agreeing to meet someone, you know quite well, under the label 'date' is a massive green light. You already know each other, therefore she will expect you to move things forward and spice things up, compared to your previous interactions.
I'm not quite sure about buying flowers that soon. It could put pressure on you both. Also, if you meet up somewhere outside you have to carry the thing with you for the whole date - very unhandy. You have to trust your instincts, but giving her flowers too early could also come across as needy.
You are coming out of the friendzone, one foot is still there. Under normal circumstances only tension and physical escalation will get you out of there, not being nice and romantic. Just holding hands might not be enough. Don't force it, but you should at lest try to kiss her. The problem of just holding hands: You crossed the touch barrier, but only/mostly created romantic vibes. Women often take longer to feel deep romantic feelings. In the early stages, the guy has to be exciting. Being romantic comes later for them.

(This is based on the assumtion, that you live somewhere in the west.)

PhoenixNightingale90 · 2022-08-26T16:38:35+00:00

Given that you both already get on well and have an established relationship I wouldn’t be too focused on making it romantic, that might come off a bit weird and try hard.

You want her to be thinking how it’s great that she already is comfortable around you rather than weirded out by you behaving completely differently.

Roses are a perfect example of what you should not do.

I’d say roll with the friendly vibe at first and just have a good time, but then you do want to be escalating physically and making the conversations less platonic.

grovelinghorse · 2022-08-26T12:03:35+00:00

You could try to make sexual innuendos and see how she responds then maybe escalate physically by touching her arm while making playful banter. Touch her back while guiding her into a door. Or go for a walk and put your hand out and let her place her hands in yours. You need to escalate physically. That's basically what everyone will tell you here.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-08-26T14:53:56+00:00

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Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-26T12:40:50+00:00

Light has a better chance to escape a black hole than a male to escape friendzone.

The only right way to deal with this is If you set your mind in the obvious: It is not right for a man to think about fucking his female friend. Once you develop romantic feelings towards a female, she, almost by definition, can not became your your friend until those feelings are dead.

So you have set yourself into a torture chamber. Hope you enjoy it.

What you should do:

Make It clear from the start that you desire her as a male desires a female. Smile, look at her eyes. Talk amenities. Smile , look at her breasts, when caught on the act, Smile again and get back to casual talk.

Table selection should put you side by side, not face to face. This will give you plenty of opportunities to touch her. Make It casual, not creepy.

Keep telling jokes and making her laught.

Around the middle of the date, time to put sexual innuendo into your words while keeping the casual talk.

Closer to the end, put your feelings out in the opening

I am not sure If you noticed, but i got the hots when you are around.

Drop this bomb and keep small talking.

Time to pay the tab. She will likely ask to split It.

You say: i invited you, please let me handle this. If you enjoyed this and wanna do it again another day , i will gladly accept your invitation .

This way she gets a way to decide If she wanna another date or not. The bill isnt relevant and should not a point of argument.

Time close the deal No asking for kiss. Look her in eyes while you move in for the kill

Odds are you will not suceed in kissing her.

The good thing now is that you both know How the other feels about each other.

You should not contact her again until you forget her.

Actively forget her. Delete all photos, stop hearing songs that reminds you If her. Do not watch porn with actress that resemble her.

When you finally forget her you can be friends again. A male can have females friends, as long as he doesnt dreams about fucking them 24*7

Viktor2500 · 2022-08-26T16:07:38+00:00

Don't get her flowers lol. You MUST greet her with a hug though, it never fails and that's how you will start slowly escalating physically, which in your situation is one of the main objectives for you on the date, another one is to get to know her better, which at this point I assume you do to some extent.

Amikatey · 2022-08-26T16:08:51+00:00

Pls don't ask her, just gauge the mood and do it. Or just do it. Holding hands isnt a big deal. Once you get grip of the hands them hold it. Maybe while road crossing or something like that.

texaspete3 · 2022-08-26T17:52:53+00:00

do not get her roses. Stop trying to force sexual chemistry.

You want this to be a date, and you will do everything in your power to manifest this is into a successful romantic outing but this is not how it works.

You have to build attraction , find chemistry escalate physically . These are the rules.

Titty_Slicer_5000 · 2022-08-26T18:16:37+00:00

Flirt, flirt, flirt. Lightly tease her. Maintain strong eye contact, especially when you’re talking to her. Speak slowly and calmly, avoid raising the pitch of your voice a lot. Touch her. Begin with light innocent touches (brush arms, light elbow touch, etc. ) and gradually escalate if she reacts positively (maybe touch her should or small of your back as you’re talking).

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