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[–]cobraCL 4 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
U/ok-Physics5106 posted a great response. I'll append:
She is genuinely curious about you, and asks you nuanced questions to get to know you better. Not the typical formulaic get-to-know shit. She likes to pick your brain, and asks for your opinions.
She is curious about your likes and interests, and will offer to partake in them to get closer to you (even if they are nothing like hers).
She makes time for you, especially when her life is generally busy.
She takes initiative in making plans, or responds to plans you make quickly and with enthusiasm.
She mirrors your body language, laughs a lot, maintains plenty of eye contact, picks up on your sense of humour and runs with it. She basicallly seems fully 'present', immersed and gives you her full attention.
Shows you that you are on her mind. "I saw/heard something today that reminded me of you".
She finds any reason to touch you.
[–]WanyCaleb 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Does this do be apply to shy gals too?
[–]ZoeticLark 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, of they take the time to learn ways to connect as listed here- it can be eaaier with some ideas that make sense help shyness be overcome..
[–]Ok-Physics5106 4 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
Have you consistently seen her in person. If yes good sign.
Have you been physical with her in anyway holding hands, kissing, sex? If yes especially sex great sign.
You go on dates in public and they aren't all you buying her stuff. Cheap dates like going for a walk, picnics, coffee, beach trips etc are good and intimate.
Does she contact you at all first? A huge sign.
Is she on her phone ALOT on dates. Call her out.
Does your dates consist of her on her phone posting to Instagram and your not in the photos just you taking them. (Gay best friend)
Have you been out with her and her friends or family? She sees a future and not embarrassed of you.
On dates is she focused on you and staying by you or just or is she scanning the room.
[–]searchfgold6789 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
What if she does ALL of these except sex? What might one be doing wrong?
[–]cobraCL 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
My guess is that she is relationship oriented and likes you enough to not want to alienate you by coming across as a low value woman.
Men seem to be divided here: Some feel a girl is wasting his time by not giving him sex as early as possible and will move on, others will disqualify a girl from relationship material if they put out soon and will keep them as a casual/fwb/side.
This chick definitely likes you, though, might be that you want different things?
[–]searchfgold6789 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Interesting. Well, the conference is over, so she missed out.
[–]Ok-Physics5106 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
How many dates and how long?
[–]searchfgold6789 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Helpful hypothetical: 3 dates within 2 weeks My sitch: three within 4 days (conference hookup attempt)
[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’ll bottom line it: if she’s interested she’ll reply to a call or text. She’ll agree to a date after she feels like she can trust you. Anything less is about seeking attention and or validation.
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[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not usually because a woman that’s gotten her validation fix is ready to move on. There are exceptions, but if she’s not interested she’s not going to want to lead you on.
[–]TheTruth221 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ignore her for a few weeks and see how she reacts
[–]CompetitionFair7686 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don’t ask, you also read her mind. You just escalate things physically and if she lets you escalate te game on, if not back off.
[–]WanyCaleb 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Act like she's already interested, if she's reciprocates Bada bing Bada boom, WAP.
[–]Kennymacdougall -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She is never genuinely interested. Women only like a man for 2 things:
- Attention - Resources
It's in her nature and that's it. Don't just blindly believe it but do the research and look around and only then will you eventually see that it's either of those two or a combination.
Maybe women stuck in childhood.
[–]Adbice-Advice 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
God, what a terrible way to see people.
[–]Odd_Delay_603 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is hella stupid, you may want to change the way you view some things bro.
[–]PaidRenegade 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well the women I meet are pretty much all through online dating and I don’t beat around the bush at all.
So if I’m pushing for a meet up within several messages then it’s easy to get a sense for whether the girl is really interested in meeting me or if she’s just looking for attention/validation and is just bored.
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