How do you handle rejection? [recovered]

wastingtoomuchthyme · 2022-05-10T12:07:04+00:00

Easy - you accept it and move on.

If you find you're getting rejected a lot then you need to learn from the experiences and find ways to become more accepted..

Yerebeets · 2022-05-10T12:17:34+00:00

If you value your worth based on the outcome, you will feel bad when rejected. You have to shift that (and it's not easy, I know) mindset and know that irregardles of the outcome, you are still a good person. Rejection might happen irrelevant to your looks / mindset / confidence etc., the girl that rejected you might just be going through a diffucult time or something bugged her and she didn't want to go through with it.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-10T17:20:13+00:00

It’s called ego and humans love feeding it and protecting it, even though your ego is their biggest enemy.

When a girl rejects you, your ego takes it personal because your ego wants to believe that you are perfect, amazing, smart, handsome, that no one would ever reject a guy like you, and all the good things that you wish were true about yourself, but which are not.

Your ego needs other people’s approval so you can feel good about yourself, in other words it makes you dependant on other people to be confident. And the more you feed and protect your ego, the bigger the need to have other people approve of you, to keep your confidence high.

You got upset because your ego made you believe you had “x” perception of yourself, which wasn’t exactly real, and now that girl has destroyed it.

Your confidence in order to be true, needs to come from within not from others, and your perception of yourself needs to be humbled. You need to develop your humility, and accept that you are not gonna be liked by everyone that you like and that’s fine, it’s normal and happens to absolutely everyone on earth. And to stop associating rejections to a lack of self-worth.

In other words when a girl rejects you, that doesn’t mean you are worthless, or not good enough, what it means is that she doesn’t emotionally and sexually connect with you and doesn’t feel the spark.

You can be good enough for a girl, or even better than her, and she still wouldn’t necessarily feel the connection or the spark, because not everyone can connect with everyone.

So be more humble, accept and expect to not connect with everyone you like, and stop taking yourself, so seriously. The facade your ego wants to disappear is not real, so stop trying to protecting it.

Artist-in-Residence- · 2022-05-10T13:44:48+00:00

You should always accept the rejection graciously, say something nice about them and wish them well.

This also applies for other things like job interviews, applications etc ask them to keep you in mind if another opportunity arises. When you accept rejection graciously, this sets off a series of interactions that have positive karma that eventually returns to you in time.

It also shows you're confident, you can take a rejection. Remember that rejection doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, you're just not a match. It's good that you don't waste time on someone who is not right for you, when there is someone out there whom you have possibly not met yet who might be right for you. You need to focus your energies on yourself and being enlightened about your own self in order to attract the right kind of people to you.

However, sometimes the person doing the rejection is giving you what's called a 'shit test', this is usually to see how much you desire them and willing to fight for them because they feel insecure or unsure about your feelings for them.

In the case of the "shit test" rejection, don't react emotionally. Stonewall them until they eventually come back and apologise. ;-)

kiramdahanett · 2022-05-10T12:16:25+00:00

By knowing for every girl who rejects me , there's another hotter tighter girl who wants to suck the shit out of my dick but i can never find her if i stop saying hi to girls.

aim for alot of rejections .

FrequentPizza8663 · 2022-05-10T13:09:46+00:00

Dust it off and move on. Helps to have a therapist to talk to about it, too.

2022-05-10T15:32:20+00:00

you just gotta take a deep breath, inhale then let that shit out because rejection is something that just comes with the territory in this game we play ..

Rastaman143 · 2022-05-10T16:54:04+00:00

Accept its apart of masculinity makes me feel like a badass or rogue. It just feels right

Title	How do you handle rejection? [recovered]
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Date	May 10, 2022 12:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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