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[–]Thin_Protection5616 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Give it a few days before you respond or double text.
It wasn't a bad text at all
[–]strikeslay 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I responded like 8 hours after she first messaged me, then she responded in under 10 min and I responded back in 25min.
I wasn’t counting the hours, just going about my day. Should I wait hours between every singe text message?
Also I’m never gonna double text, If she doesn’t respond onto the next
[–]Thin_Protection5616 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
No, don't wait between every text. If you know she's looking at her phone, it doesn't make sense to wait until she might not be looking at her phone to text.
Do what's effective, not what satisfies your ego. You'll be missing a lot of girls if you never double text to recover a convo that died.
[–]strikeslay 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I feel double texting shows lower value. Yea she gets lots of messages but if she finds me really attractive and wants to fuck then she’ll not just let it get lost.
Not responding to me shows lower interest on her part. Me chasing by double texting would lower interest more by showing her I don’t have other options. If I did then I would just move onto a girl who was responding rather than double texting those who aren’t.
[–]Agitated_Character41 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Man, this is why I instituted my 24-hour rule. If we are still in the app phase and I don't get a response in 24-hours, I just unmatch and move on. Too much analyzing and over analyzing. Dating should be enjoyable, and thinking about it like you are can burn you out quick
[–]rhofire 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I feel double texting shows lower value.
You already showed you don't value yourself by talking too much. She was open with you and expected you to make a move. But, you chose to keep talking instead of acting.
It's done. Forget about her.
[–]strikeslay 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So sending one more sexual text before setting meeting is the dealbreaker?
[–]rhofire 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When a girl is forward with you, she's taking a chance. She essentially made a move and you ignored it. So, to her that's rejection.
It also shows you are not confident as you appear to be. Confidence is backed by action.
Now, her first message ("box me") is already a move. You didn't act on it, you didn't get it. Fair enough, she sent a more explicit one. You still missed it. That tells her all she needs to know.
Keep it simple. Contrary to popular belief, the whole point of the messaging is to set up a meeting. Anything other than that is a waste of your time and energy.
Indeed, some girls will reject you when you simplify things. But, those who follow your lead will be the best women you'll meet.
[–]strikeslay 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Makes sense. These girls have so many options you gotta capitalize quick and not play around. I’ll learn and do better with the next one
[–]Throwaway1010069 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Right because attractive women get 10 to 1 the number of matches that men do. OP'S message could have been lost in the sea of her inbox.
[–]Thin_Protection5616 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly
[–]nuc1earwessels 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Its tinder. Convos go cold all the time. Just keep matching, chatting, and being yourself until something sticks.
[–]quadfintryfin 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good banter. She’s got notifications off and hasn’t checked tinder
[–]Thin_Protection5616 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not responding means you're getting buried under others texts.
Double texting 3-7 days later (without trying to start the old convo thread) gives you a chance.
[–]rhofire -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Was I too aggressive and fucked up and easy W or is it just typical tinder girl flakiness?
No, you missed you cue to set up the meeting.
[–]srd4 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hella needy to go for meeting right away
[–]WhiteningMcClean 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't beat yourself up over this one. Just chalk it up to tinder flakiness.
[–]After-Interest5112 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fake surprise works for me sometimes. Her:Wrestle me in bed You: 😳😳 or 🥵🥵. You already know the sex is coming no need to be so forward you’ll scare them away also practice abundance mentality.
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