Really wish I didn’t hear this.

Upset-Passion1457 · 2022-04-01T08:05:27+00:00

You’re a guy and you see her in a man-to-woman vibe. You should be clear that this is something you’re not comfortable to talk about. I used to listen to their rants and stories, to a great extent, but I realized it’s not worth it for me. Even if I’m not attracted to them, that’s not my responsibility unless I have a grand history of friendship with them. Be clear that you would not like to talk about it and if she gets it, great, but if not, let her go.

canuckle1211 · 2022-04-01T08:10:08+00:00

Yea I’ve been there before, and being young and a virgin definitely was what I was back then when I felt like that too. After dating lots of girls and not a virgin any more you’ll look at things and girls in general with a much more open mind. You’ll understand there are sooooooooo many girls out there, and the one you get jealous over wasn’t even that great.

JustNefariousness625 · 2022-04-01T07:22:41+00:00

If she talks to you about other guys she sees you as somebody that might not be getting intimate with her. You can flip it and hold sexual frame but I personally don’t like to hear about other guys. Could be my own insecurities.

excentrik-art · 2022-04-01T09:16:50+00:00

Friendzoned. Go to next one, this is no go

BPYCKorea · 2022-04-01T06:37:35+00:00

Read mode one from Alan Roger Currie, then read oooh say it again.

madetorun · 2022-04-01T06:46:29+00:00

I think it’s important to ask yourself why you feel like this and work from there. This is a common insecurity but it comes from different places for different people, jealousy is just the symptom. Knowing someone is “more experienced” than you can be big pressure, but you’d be surprised how understanding someone’s likes and dislikes will get you way further than focusing on your shortcomings. On the other hand, as you gain experience this feeling will fade, and you’ll fill the gaps of things you want to try and build confidence. Do it slowly tho, rushing into fucking isn’t the best idea. Make sure the girls you want to have sex with make you feel safe, attractive and most of all adequate. Also yes be physical, if she likes you and you know it, it’s your ball to play and don’t get discouraged if you get your advances wrong. Be patient and understanding of what she likes and dislikes.

2022-04-01T18:41:55+00:00

shopping date thing

What is a shopping date? Unless you’re her boyfriend/husband, shopping is what she does with her girlfriends.

Look, not sure how old you are but you need to realize that in the modern day, the majority of women have done hook ups, one night stands, casual sex/relationships, long term relationships, friends with benefits, and whatever else. Your chances of finding a woman who’s waiting for marriage are slim to none. That sweet girl you might have a crush on is probsvltI can understand how this might bother some men, but it’s a fact that you just need to accept. My advice is to NOT focus on this one chick and start talking to (and fucking) more women.

VDKay · 2022-04-01T09:28:09+00:00

As a virgin this shit sank my soul to a bottomless pit

What? why? That's good dummy! She is talking about sex with you. She is gauging your reaction. She is probably gauging if you'd also be down to a one night stand. Other than that. Her past is her past. Also, having gained some sexual experience is GOOD. She will know what to do and probably won't "crave" a life she didn't get to live later in life. But in ANY case, never ever be judgemental.

OK, listen. You don't want to be her friend. I don't know how old you are, but you sound very young. Don't take her somewhere where she is semi-naked and try to "move more physical". Take her at a safe place, make her feel safe, and tell her that you like her. Tell her that you want to kiss her, etc. You get it. escalate verbally first. Make sure she understands that you like her as a woman and not as a friend.

incognito3107 · 2022-04-01T11:52:42+00:00

Well, decent looking girl with social character can have really rich history of hookups without making much effort. It is rarely talked about, but that's how it is. In my opinion it's better to be that way in comparison to someone that is extremely shy, awkward or impotent. Just be yourself and make your play regardless of her experience, that shouldn't mean much for you. Maybe she was giving you a hint by saying this, it is not considered normal to talk about your sexual experiences on first date.

illumiknottyweave · 2022-04-01T06:38:45+00:00

It might not be possible to stop it, but you could use it to your advantage in the sense that if you want to keep her attention on you then I bet she’d like to see you act like it. Or at least if I was talking to a guy and he took me swimming but kept me cornered away, splashing at me, acting like other men shouldn’t exist, I’d find it sexy. Next time she tells you about some guy call him a loser or at least be honest with her that you don’t wanna know. Don’t hide- speak up.

Sup3rHD · 2022-04-01T08:43:31+00:00

Cool Now u can grow

wenjtap · 2022-04-01T14:05:18+00:00

Shopping trips swimming dates.. y’all are friends. Don’t bear yourself up over her. Go flirt with people. Take a yoga class or something.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-01T15:56:05+00:00

Stop being so goddamn nice and take her home to fuck. Jeezus. Girls want to get fucked not go on a thousand dates. You are shooting yourself in the dick.

Ejmd4328 · 2022-04-01T17:02:58+00:00

Tell her to come over to your house late one night. Get your chance with her and be confident with your voice and how you touch her. Have some snacks and have a sexual ish movie ready to play on netflix. Not ready ready but know where to go to find it. Play it and tell her to come to you and you guys should be holding each other and watching or close to eachother if there’s the snacks in between you guys then at a part that you think she’s feeling a small vibe move the snacks away and make her lean on you with your hands in good placement to initiate smt.

2022-04-01T17:37:21+00:00

First step is to knock off the horny.

Does she respond to your innuendo? How do you two flirt?

The fact that she's open with you about her sexual history means she places some level of trust and confidence in her. 100%, whatever she tells you, hold that in confidence but also put boundaries on what you two talk about so you don't wind up upsetting yourself.

Also, the purpose if any that might serve is usually to Guage your level of interest and spark competition.

The other part of this is that you're looking at her through a lens that makes her a target of your sexual interest. What are HER sexual interests though? You being upset at her hookups is a problem. You're trying to get the exact same thing and more and you're never going to get it if you're hung up on her getting dick.

Be happy that she's getting hers. She knows what she's after and she's living her life. If you don't like that you need to find a way to cope, figure out how to catch her attention, or leave before you become the bestie she fucks in front of on sluttyconfessions.

Also, whether it's her time her attention or body, she owes you nothing so appreciate your time and enjoy her company. If she's not into you like that at all (which it seems like) ask her to be your wingman. She trusts you and likes you enough as a friend that she'd be the best ally you could ask for in a social scenario.

Title	Really wish I didn’t hear this.
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Date	April 1, 2022 6:34 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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