Not getting many second dates. Is this normal? [recovered]

Mysterious_Breath_53 · 2022-03-06T20:24:36+00:00

It's normal. Someone on family always had success with girls. Recently I asked him how many girls he had to talk to in order to have sex with one girl. His percentage was 10%. These were girls he knew from his social circle / going out to bars. He is very good socially and he's attractive. That is the reality. From his success I assumed his percentage was 30% but I was wrong. 10% closing rate is great actually. I'd say 3%-5% is the reality for most guys.

Regarding the girl feeling bad about sex on the first day, you need to build more rapport. Tell her you feel really good with her, that it is very rare for this to happen, that you don't know why but you just want to take care of her and protect her, etc. Basically you need to create the idea that there is a connection between you. This is usually only possible to do when there's a real connection, which is rare.

mightymite88 · 2022-03-06T18:36:37+00:00

Are you looking for hookuos or a relationship? Cause you mention one almost being a relationship. Those are different goals and require different approaches that yield different results

RPEdmonton · 2022-03-06T18:49:20+00:00

Way to many factors to determine what’s going wrong, would need to know way more about you

However, it’s very impressive you can land that many dates! Most guys would have a hard time with that. Keep it up and learn what works for you and what doesn’t

SaltLeader3687 · 2022-03-06T18:08:29+00:00

Interesting story but looks like you are putting too much pressure on yourself and giving way too much importance to external validation.

MattPruga · 2022-03-06T21:08:00+00:00

Interesting, my problem is getting the girl on the date. I had no trouble seducing them once I'm there.

What's your vibe like, you talk serious or flirty? You try to connect emotionally? Do you care about their stories and life in general? I'm a pretty emotional dude, so I like dwelling into the girl with talk often (listening to talking ratio is around 80/20 for me)

Title	Not getting many second dates. Is this normal? [recovered]
Author	SaltLeader3687 [recovered]
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	March 6, 2022 5:32 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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