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[–]Ickybunni 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So do you think young girls seek out older guys to prove their maturity?
[–]Inappropriatestacy 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
In short, no not all women 18-24 will have daddy issues. There’s plenty of women in this age range that are mentally healthy individuals.
This doesn’t mean you’re out of the clear though. The problem you’ll have at 40 is that 99% of girls 18-24 who are at all mature will look at you as a creep and want nothing to do with you. As they are much more interested in men their age. They are at a stage where they are going to college and meeting lots of people and developing sexual experiences with people in similar situations(age, new freedom, new shared experiences)
What you’re left with is the women that aren’t interested in this for whatever their reason may be. It may be that they’ve developed much younger sexually and the idea of having a novice partner doesn’t interest them. It could be a host of reasons. The reality is though that there are very very few of these women in the world. Your chances of finding one are slim to none. That’s just the reality of it.
What you will find though is women 18-25 who find you attractive but there’s a decent chance it’s going to be a similar interaction as what you have now. They aren’t specifically “daddy issues” which I think is a pretty crude way of describing what in reality is actually underdevelopment and lack of life experience.
There’s very little chance that an 18 year old can in any meaningful way relate to a 40 year old (in a relationship) simply due to time spent alive. The 40 year old will have a history of breakups, heart break, potentially abusive past partners, long stretches of being single. The 18 has none of this. They’ve not really experienced anything except maybe a high school breakup. And when you look back on those as an adult you realize how insignificant they are.
They are at a point of learning what is right and wrong in relationships in the real world. So it’s unsurprising that they would act out. The same way a child acts out when it is presented with things for the first time that it is unfamiliar with.
What you essentially want, whether you want to admit it to yourself or not, is a underdeveloped girl who isn’t going to argue you with and let you have your way without too much effort. You say you don’t think you’ll be attracted to women your age when you’re older but there is no way to know this until you’re actually older.
You’ve clearly been convinced by something (probably porn) that 18-22 year olds are the hottest little fuck toys about. Unfortunately the reality of that is that most “18” yearold porn starts are closer too 24-27.
So no, not all women aged 18-24 have daddy issues. However the ones that don’t will be too busy fucking college guys who are hottest cooler and more fun than a 40 year old trying to pick up girls at their high school graduation.
[–]laughschuckles2 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
you worded this perfectly
[–]ppl_n_r_neighborhood 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This. OP has some issues, misogyny and predatory tendencies seems to be part of them. You can’t be attracted to children and then be surprised when they act like children, and an 18-year-old is a child, legally or not.
[–]throwwwawayyy187 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How am I being a misogynist or showing predatory tendencies?
If I girls not interested you leave her alone and go away.
[–]AngeloMacon 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Whole lot of judgy people here today. It's not really an age difference that indicates an issue. If you were 50 you could find plenty of well adjusted 30 year old women who would date you assuming you had something to offer.
I'm assuming you live in west, so there's a taboo for really young girls to date older guys. The ones willing to plow through social pressure tend to have the daddy issues. Anecdotally, once women get to around 25 they stop caring about age and go for quality first. So if you're 30, 40, whatever, I wouldn't suggest going younger than 25 unless she's from a different culture where it's more accepted. You can see even in this thread the shaming tactics that the younger ones would get.
I know motherfuckers are crazy haha
I’m just talking hypothetically even talks everything so seriously
[–]btrpb 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Last 3 girls I've dated have been mid 20s. I'm approaching mid 40s. In short, no. They've all been pretty smart and well balanced.
[–]ManWithAThousand 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Honestly... you sound pretty immature. So yeah, the young children you date will have issues because you attract young children with issues. The healthy ones are smart enough to avoid you.
Get therapy. You got issues.
How am I being immature?
I’m just talking hypothetically. I hope I date a woman my age when I want to settle down. All in say is I’m attracted to a 21 or 22 now and I hope it won’t be the case when I’m in my Middle Ages. Not attracted to 18 really I’ve had a thought about it.
[–]Fate-in-haze 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Date who you want to date, as long as they are legal no one has the right to tell you that you can't date them, I suggest getting a copy of The rules of David X, David X will give you the confidence to live life on your terms, not someone else's.
[–]throwwwawayyy187 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Who is David X?
Yeah as long as there’s consent and both are adults I don’t know why ppl care so much who others date and their age
I was just trying to ask about if some younger girls maybe don’t have dad issues when dating older guys but I get woke judgments comments from someone else haha
[–]Fate-in-haze 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow you never heard of David X? David X is the man, the godfather of direct game and harem management, just go on YouTube and type David X dating in the search bar and you'll find some of his videos, the Toronto seminar and direct dating conference are gold, let me know if you want more info or his eBook.
Sure cheers man
[–]myheadsonfire69 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I would be more worried about yourself
[+]throwwwawayyy187 -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Worried for yourself like being with a girl with daddy issues ? Why is it that bad?
[–]ppl_n_r_neighborhood -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think this person means that they think that you should be more worried about why you’re OK with harming other people to get your dick wet. Because make no mistake, if you go after girls this young when you’re in your 40s, you will cause them lasting damage with the shit you put them through. I personally think it’s gross when people use an imbalance of power to get what they want, without caring how it will hurt the other person, just because that person is young and hot.
Because that will be what it is, whether you want to accept the fact that you’d be a creeper or not. The only reason a woman that young would get with a guy that old is for money or because they have some traumatic issues that they haven’t worked through yet, which you would be hoping to capitalize on. If you’re willing to capitalize on that, I seriously doubt that you are going to be mature enough to treat them in the gentle way that they need to thrive. It sounds more like you will just discard them and go for someone younger.
I am totally fine with this by the way. Because I have watched so many of my male acquaintances think that this is going to be their life, so they treat women as disposable. And then once they actually get to their 40s they realize that no one will want to touch their dick, because the young women think they’re old and gross and the older women think they’re creeps for targeting kids. It has been kind of enjoyable to watch, although eventually our friend groups had to cut these men out of our circles, because we got sick of hearing the bitching lol. I promise you that things are not going to go the way that you imagine haha!
I never said I would leave someone. I would stick it through.
[–]myheadsonfire69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm married, so not worried
[–]HeavenPiercingMan 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Hmmm. As a late bloomer I feel you. Not interested in women my age, they're boring or too serious, therefore they'll will look down upon me or see me as old news for having a "lighter" way of looking at relationships. Ironically I like them sexually, but nothing more. The relationship feels like having another mom instead of a partner.
[–]politits 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
First off, everyone has daddy issues. Secondly, you admitted that your ex-girlfriend dumped and blocked you because you texted her something that pissed her off. That has nothing to do with daddy issues. That’s someone who got sick of you being an asshole. And the fact that you use language to minimize what it was or how bad it was means it was probably worse than you’re letting on and definitely not the first time. Maybe you did have to walk on eggshells as well, but you’re letting on that you did a lot to piss her off and you still think it was her fault or “daddy issues” and not anything you did because you clearly lack any self-awareness. You’re obviously looking for simple answers and an easy scapegoat because you don’t understand nuance. So no, none of that is daddy issues.
As for your idea that you’re going to date someone who’s as young as 18 when you’re 40, that says a lot about you and nothing about them or any issues. Men who do that are almost always too immature to date women closer to their own age, want to control someone who doesn’t know any better, and would be impressionable to someone older and who seems more mature (but is really just a man child). On top of that, you sound like a total fucking creep even just suggesting this. And this really fits the pattern you just described with your ex. She wouldn’t just put up with your shitty behavior in silence, so now your answer is “I need someone who’s way too young to know better and would assume I know better because I’m older.” And either they would stay with you and be miserable or would eventually get wise and leave your ass.
Good luck to you.
It’s not even that you’re just judging super hard you don’t know me making assumptions.
I’m just talking hypothetically here. I hope I marry someone around my age but yeah atm I’m attracted to 20-23 but I hope that changes as I get older. And any girl I date I’ll invest in them, I’m not just gonna throw them aside stop making assumptions. If I dated a girl significantly younger than me when I’m older, I wouldn’t just fuck her and then leave.
And btw since you think I’m fucked and making assumptions about the last girl I saw here it is. She wanted to just be friends after a while. I said I don’t think that’s gonna work. We text a bit. I’m sleeping she calls me and I don’t know at the time she’s drunk. After a while, she decides to give it another go but the next day she was like nah. So I said I think you’re being a bit unstable going back and forth and it’s hard for me to take I need some space for a bit. Then got blocked lol
I tried to do everything right to this girl. I’m not perfect, I might say something bit harsh occasionally in the moment but if I’m in the wrong I’ll apologise. I told her let’s have a long break from being intimate because yeah I still wanted to have a romantic thing but I wanted to build it up again.
[–]politits 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’m not making assumptions, I’m inferring. There’s a huge difference.
If you say “I ate grilled cheese and tomato…” I can guess with near certainty that “soup” is the next word of your sentence.
You went into a decent amount of detail and it’s very easy to see the bigger picture around it based on what you said. For example: someone doesn’t have to tell you they’re stupid, they can just say a whole bunch of stupid shit and it’s not an assumption to conclude that they’re stupid when they’ve obviously demonstrated their limited intellect.
That said, I’ll concede that there is more to the story with the girl who blocked you, and you might not be at fault there, but “daddy issues” still doesn’t apply to her being erratic in her communication with you and the fact that you concluded that still shows that you’re looking for simple answers.
People and their psyches and behavior are nuanced. Don’t try to put people in a simple box.
Yeah true
It just badly so quickly. I was kind of upset set about it. I tried to make it right and apologise but she didn’t reply.
I wanted to still be intimated and I got a bit rash that she was going back and forth changing her mind. Learnt that sometimes it’s best just to put the phone down
Neither of us were in the right but it just seemed if she deleted me from her life from a text then it wouldn’t have been a 50/50 thing where I could trust her and she’s show loyalty.
I didn’t even about sex for close future. Just the small moments like dropping her off and just walking were way better than sex to me. And idk it hurt me that she said I just wanted her for sex when she was drunk
[–]ur_notmytype -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
So you wanna date a teenager when you’re 40? Wtf eww
[–]throwwwawayyy187 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Well an adult that’s what 18+ is. Well it’s just a thought more curiosity idk if I really want to.
[–]ur_notmytype -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago* (8 children) | Copy Link
18 and 19 are still teenagers at the end of the day and when grown ass adults are willing to date someone at that age they are also attracted to younger teenagers and if it wasn’t illegal to be with someone 17 and younger I’m sure that adult would try to be with them
[–]throwwwawayyy187 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Well for me no I’m a lawyer and I understand the law. Adult age and consent. And from a moral perspective the thought of manipulating a 17 year minor disgusts me.
Idk I’m just not sure you don’t need to try and judge me. I think I’m attracted to girls like 20 to 24. I have liked dating girls in this age bracket. I just don’t know when I’m older
[–]ur_notmytype -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Just because something is legal doesn’t make it right
[–]throwwwawayyy187 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why do you care so much what two ppl decide to do in dating like who cares why does it bug u so much? If it’s consensual and both are adults they have fun love each other and treat each other right I don’t know why ppl like you get some judgmental about it
[–]ur_notmytype 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I literally explained it in my other comment. Do you want me to explain it again?
[–]throwwwawayyy187 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Going by law 18 and 19 are adults. I don’t know why ppl make the arguments they’re teens when clearly by statute they arent
[–]ur_notmytype 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
EightTEEN and nineTEEN literally have teen in it so yes teenagers just like 13-17 have teen in it
[–]ManWithAThousand 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're correct in that teenagers are still children and the dude got problems.
Unfortunately, different states have dramatically different ages of consent in America.
[–]rau87 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I heard this formula for older guys that are trying to date younger girls. So you take your age (40) you divide it by (2) and add (7) and boom that’s the age of the younger girls you should be dating (27). If a girl can ask for her own alcoholic beverage, as an adult you shouldn’t be dating her.
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